what kind of friend would you call this? real or fake?

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Okay I have this friend I made in college. So every time I would ask her to hang out with me and my sister, she'd always say "Yes"I love hanging out with you girls,and say good things about us, but it never happens,instead she goes tohang out withother friends. and she NEVER invites us NO WHERE, but she always say she wanna hang out with us. So last Friday, I asked her to call me cause I needed advice, so she did,& she gave it to me. Then she ask if I wantedtogo tobreakfastwithher,andbtw (none of her other friends were around,itwas wheneveryone was prettymuchgone) So we chatted, and she told me we'd hang out overbreak,so then me andmysisterasked her if she wanted to watch movies withus andshe said she would.So she asked us to help her pack, and we did, then she shut herlaptop andsaid she wouldn't be able to watch the movie cause she hadto leave. She was also telling me how one of her roomates was judgemental,then she hung around her,then she was telling me how her bestfriend gets on her nerves, andhow she wish herbestfriend would move out the room. And I tweeted something on twitter,and she mentioned me saying "true that sister"should I even respond to that,tellherhow me andmysisterfeel? So then I told her I needed to tell her something, she told me to text her, then she asked me if everything was okay. So I told her I was moving colleges, and she said "Nowhy? , then I ask her if she wantedme tomove, then she said no, cause mycollege is a good school, so then I told her why I was moving, and she said she think colleges in Texas would be a good college. So after that I asked what was she doing for her birthday, and she said she didn't know, then I asked herofshe was hanging out with people, and she said probably..Whatkinda friendwould you callthis? I really need help.

[VistaCove]

Simple answer: real friend

Long answer: I think the trouble is, she's trying to be a very good friend to A LOT of people. Some people that she may not even want to stay friends with. She may really want to spend time hanging out with you but if she gets stuck with someone else for a moment, she may be trying to be nice and have a hard time saying No. Even if that means she doesn't spend that time with you. She sounds very sweet and you seem to have a good friend there. I think you probably could tell her how you feel and she'll probably feel terrible.

My advice: Try seeing how she may be feeling if she feels 'stuck' with certain people sometimes. As her friend, maybe you could let her know in a-you-want-whats-best-for-her kinda way.

Best wishes