Breaking up advice please help :(?

[Taylor]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years. Been together since the end of freshman year and we are now juniors. I'm going to bullet everything.
-we have had trust issues
-I'm really close w his family and last time we broke up they all hated him
- his mom and I are so close that she cried when e broke up before.
- lately we've been arguing non stop .because I asked him to answer me on social networks like twitter and he said our relationship didnt revolve around twitter.
- we ended up being ok until a day later when I went to go grab his phone to ask him mom if he could come over (during school) and he wouldn't let me touch his phone or show me his texts. He flipped out saying Jesus Christ and walked away.
- we were fine for two days until I asked him to come over today he kept saying idk. Then I told him I wasn't letting him control me anymore and than we were fine and he was gonna come over but he didn't have a ride and now he's randomly saying he doesn't feel the spark. BUT he said that before and we got back together.
PLEASE help me. I'm a mess crying and going through emotions seriously and I just need advice beside my moms. :,( he texted me but I'm not replying bc I don't want him to think he as me on a leash.
Please help me with the best advice and don't just say I need trust to date him.. We have had trust.until now again
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[Brendon]

Well, since you are worried about him controlling you, you are best to not answer. I'm not understanding the pettiness of your disputes. There are times at his age were he may want to be private just to be private, I was his age once and that is how I handled it. I think if you want to respect that, it may strengthen your relationship, if you don't think you can handle it, time to let him go. Its really up to how much you are willing to give at this point, you aren't answering his text now, earlier he didn't answer yours, someones gotta break this sort of lets see who can care less cycle. Its okay if you have to call it off just think of the age you are, and how many more bfs you will have

[silversiren28]

Sweets, you know what you need to do. You are young and have lots of time to get serious later on in life. Let this one go.

[Alexis]

You need to sit down with him and figure out what's going on. There must be a reason why the arguing has increased.
Ask yourself truly if being with him is the best for YOU. In this day and age, women are constantly being told to stop being self-centered, etc. Love is one of the areas that you need to truly keep your best interest in mind. Life is too short to be in relationships that really stress you out for a long period of time.
Also remember that your relationship with your boyfriend is just that- with your boyfriend, NOT with his family or friends. Is it really worth keeping them happy if staying with him isn't good for you?

[dealwithit]

He isn't worth it ...you tried making up with him multiple times as you said and if hoÅŸ family gets upset for the break up, your not dating his family your dating him ...as you said he was very sensitive about showing you his phone he is likely cheating because all guys are like that including myself ...we don't like ppl touching our phone unless we are hiding something...you have two options you could go back to him and probably go through this all over which might make you guys a strong couple or you could end things with him ...he isn't the only guy out there, end things with him and don't look back no matter what because according to your statements he is one that doesn't deserve you at all. Focus on other things like school, work other friends and potential colleges you wanna go because junior year is all about looking for colleges and trust me you will find a whole lot of people that will treat you like a queen ....forget him he is a troll he is not worthy for you to worry about him
It's your choice go with your gut and if you do choose stick to it no going back on your words

[puop]

Hey hun! Firstly, try to relax. Take deep breaths, and realize that soon you will be feeling very different and all this sadness will seem so far away. Put things in perspective. I have some questions for you, I think these will help you find an answer for yourself.
1. How much do you love him? Is he the love of your life, if you believe in that? Do you wanna spend the rest of your life with him?
2. Obviously, he has made you feel this way before. He is doing the same thing again. Do you feel angry? Do you feel like he doesn't have the right to make you feel this way over and over again?
3. Do you think your relationship has reached its expiration date?
4. Do you feel like you could move on after a while if you guys break up?

My advice would depend on your answers to these questions. Generally, if he is the love of your life, he's worth anything. But this does not mean that he has the right to do this to you every time he feels conflicted or whatever he's feeling right now. Sometimes, you have to let someone go to save the relationship. I know it feels very, very counter-intuitive. Believe me, I've been where you are now. It is tough, but sometimes you just have to stop trying to save the relationship, show the other person that you can stand up for yourself and let him go if he's not treating you right. Then just stop talking to them. If it is meant to be, he will realize how much he had lost by leaving you, and will come back. At this point, you should not accept him immediately, but make sure he has understood his mistakes and won't repeat them. If you just don't let him go and frantically try to avoid breaking up, you'll drive him away and will probably ruin the relationship in the long run.

Trust issues can be worked through if both sides are willing to. BUt seems to me like he forgot how much you matter to him. Let him go. Make it seem like it is your mutual decision to break up, that would be the best. If you still matter a lot to him, and if it is meant to be, he will come back within a month. It will be tough and very, very depressing, but it might be the only way to save the relationship.

If he's not the love of your life, you should still break up with him. Because than you can move on, and actually find the love of your life. This will hurt, but if you feel like he's not the one for you, this definitely marks the end of your relationship. Some things have to end to make room for better things.

Try to put things in perspective by thinking about the next month, the next year, and then the next 10 years. THink where you wanna be, and with whom you wanna be with. Put your emotions aside, and make a decision. Then deal with the emotions your decision leads to. If you only take your emotions into account, things will go badly.

Good luck!

[Arthur W]

It seems this relationship was not made in Heaven and was never meant to be. You two are worlds apart on everything and with no way to resolve this so time has come to cut your losses, pick up the pieces and move on and never look back. You deserve better than this and for now this relationship will never work so move on. Good luck