Could he possibly still have feelings for me? Really need advice!?

[angelina]

I've known them both for 3 years, Jake and Ryan and we became likes the 3 musketeers. They were already friends before i came in the picture. I was ALWAYS with them and have so many good memories with them both. (Won't go into detail, i'm trying not to bore yall so much) They loved me and i loved them. Jake told me he loved me more than just a best friend but i dated Ryan instead......and have been for over a year. We have promise rings. I love him very much but i do love Jake also. I broke Jake's heart like a b***h i know. I didn't mean to but i wanted to be with Ryan more. We weren't exactly the same but we were still on pretty good terms. Jake still acted the same towards me and everyone still thought he had feelings for me. The whole time we were still the same. He would always say i didn't hurt him but when we would mess around he would throw in my face that i left him for Ryan and oh don't go there ms. "(however long it was at the time) relationship" and that i broke his heart, etc. He would occasionally mess around with girls but always came back to me and treated me different. It's been over a year since and now he has a girlfriend.........it was kinda at random. He acts like he doesn't care about her to other people honestly. My other friends see it too. The only time he acts like he does is on twitter and stuff because she's on there and sees it.. He tells people they aren't dating but the girl does say they are. His brother said that he said she just a piece of a**. At the dance recently he said i looked really great and seemed like he spent more time with me than her. I saw him watching my boyfriend and i dance and kiss out the corner of my eye. I thought i would have to be single because of something with Ryan but we figured something out. I was on the phone with Jake the whole day literally crying my eyes out about it at the time (Jake's always there for me) He thought i was single so he told me he loved me and i was like yeah not the same anymore though and he said that's what you think. He said he still kinda did feel the same way. Then after Ryan and i worked it out he is right back to his girlfriend and i feel sort of ditched. So why is he even dating her? I'm starting to feel how he did when i dated Ryan..should i? Does he still love me for this long? even a year later? Or what? Help! Thanks yall

[jsn00]

You may still love your boyfriend but to be honest I really think you are falling for your other bestfriend. I know you deeply care for the guy and want whats best for him but he won't be happy until he has you, or completely cuts all contact from you and just moves on, on his own. Him still talking to you everyday and seeing you hurts him and I do feel as he does love you. And his current girlfriend isn't being treated right at all. He doesn't want to be with her at all and she should know that. I'm sure you liking him also would be bad but do yourself a favor and really do try figuring it out so you don't have to keep suffering knowing your breaking a guys heart every time you're trying to keep yourself happy. Tell him exactly how you feel and give him that final closure to move on. But if you do like him back like I think you do then post another question or something and if you want my help I'll honestly be glad to help.

[Payton G]

It seems like he's jealous. Jake is trying to get you jealous in return by dating other girls. Which seems to not be working.

That or he's trying to find someone that he could consider 'better' than you. Jake might be a bit heartbroken, and wants to be comforted in some way.

Not to be rude, but he probably feels like you are using him. Like when that thing happened with Ryan, he was your shoulder to cry on. But Jake may have percieved it as a chance to be with you.

Yes, it is quite possible that he still does love you. ( I loved someone for 5 years who still doesn't love me back)

It seems like Jake needs a 'shoulder to cry on' too, and feels distant with you when you get closer to Ryan.

I'm not really sure how to solve this (considering I've never been in a relationship), but I would talk the Jake about how you don't have feeling for him but you still want o be friends. Also, you should still make sure to spend time with Jake. If you get too distant from him, you could lose him forever.

Hope I could help you understand from his viewpoint