I am feeling really upset right now... Help?!?

[Jordan]

Well, I am 16 year old guy and a sophomore in HS. I am really dealing with a lot. My parents bought me a car on Saturday when I got my license. I feel really guilty about it. I am always in Honor Roll and accomplish a lot but I don't think I deserve it. The day I got my car I got a text saying my friend died. I didn't know how to react. I was really upset but it didnt hit me until later. Later that day I was driving and almost crashed my car. I was shooken up. My parents knew about it because I can't lie to them. Then the next day the girl I talk to got back with her boyfriend and she started to ignore me. On Monday, I went to school (I haven't been there for 2 weeks because I was sick) and the whole school was upset. We all gathered and had mass ( I go to a private catholic school) and I started crying and everyone in the school was crying. It was hard. I was ohkay on Tuesday. In Wednesday my instagram was hacked an I had 20k followers. I brushed that off because I don't feel like I should be upset about social media, so I just made a new one. Today, I washed my car an it was cold an my mom was yelling at me. I didn't know the car could freeze and I started crying and broke down. The funeral is tomorrow and it will be hard. I tried calling people to talk to and people ignored my calls and some just didnt answer. I haven't talked to ONE person. I just don't know what to do an I'm loosing hope. Please help me out. Thank you.

[Alli]

That's terrible!!! You could talk to me if you want.

[Lisa Starr]

I think what you need is to cry. Just let it all out and when you think you've had enough crying, cry some more. Cry until you think you can't cry anymore. Just let your emotions out - if you feel angry, feel angry. The more you can let out now, the easier it will be to move on with life, eventually. It will take some time. I've heard that when it comes to losing someone close to you, at first you'll think of them every moment. Then you'll think of them every minute. Then you'll think of them every hour. Then, you'll think of them every day. Then you'll think of them every week. The point is that things will get better with time, and the more you allow yourself to feel, the better it will be for you.

Also, put your emotions into writing, or drawing, or sculpting, or whatever creative outlet suits you. Write a letter to them telling them all you wish you could have before you lost them.

[Felipe]

That's a lot of emotional stuff to go through in such a short time. Just hang in there.

Car: you deserve it, or not. Anyway, your parents want you to be mobile, so accept it with thanks.

Friend: sad. No one knows how to react when we lose someone close to us. That's normal.

Crash: Avoid driving when emotionally affected.

Girlfriend: hard, but don't commit too early in life

Instagram: mature reaction, well done

car freeze: um, not sure, since it snows here and it's freezing outside but I still expect my car to crank up and start the next day

funeral: the first is always the hardest, but it teaches us to appreciate life and not to take it too seriously (not that we should not be serious but simply not get all upset over things unnecessarily)

It's right to mourn the loss of someone special and important to you, and your feelings are normal. Hope things get better for you and you come out of all this stronger.

[Blue]

that's really horrible! i know life is really hard. everything just happens unexpectedly bad! but sometimes it doesn't deal the same way. sometimes, something really good happens suddenly. they say life is like a bowl of cherries, you never know what you're gonna get. hang in there. don't give up. what if something unexpected comes up and you're not there. everything happens for a reason. whether you think your life is at the worst point. just hang in there. every situation we face in life whether bad or good has a reason, a very rational reason. and somehow we also learn from these experiences to grow emotionally.

you are not alone. everyone has or will go through the same painful experiences. even the most famous people have had terrible situations. here are some links of them:
http://www.onlinecollege.org/2010/02/16/...-at-first/
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y6hz_s2XIAU
everyone has nightmares in life. it's a lesson in life that tells you to not give up. that's why these people became so successful. they never gave up and something good just happened.

think positive. if you believe that life will never get any better then it wouldn't. "What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve" was one of napoleon hill's remarkable quotes. it does happen, because it's true. i recommend you watch the secret. it's a huge eye opener for most people and i hope you watch it so you'll realize a lot and apply it in your life.

you just have to be patient enough to wait for time pass away. even though it may seem slow, you have to wait and keep on pressing forward. remember there is always a rainbow after the storm. the problem to most people these days, they tend to give up. don't. it's a coward's way out. you're not a coward. be strong and be patient. sometimes doing nothing to a certain situation helps, you just have to wait time to pass away and do nothing else.

do a hobby. instead of traumatizing yourself about the uneventful days, try to forget about it. do something, even if it's something simple. it's better to do something worth it than to do nothing for the day. listen to music. don't listen to depressing music though. music can really change your emotions instantly. so it's better to stay away from relational songs, even if you feel tempted to. it's a warning. there are other stuffs to do like painting, writing, or even exercising.

criticism is part of life. it makes up life. without it, there wouldn't be life. criticism is vital for perfection and strength building for your emotional intelligence. you're strong and words cannot defeat you. don't let your tower fall by words. you are more than words. do not let your self-worth be defined by bullies. if you're worrying about gaining relationships then don't. there is always a person or a group of people who will care about you no matter what. you may have met them, have not met them, or will meet them someday in the future but i'm sure they'll come. do you remember charlie mason? he's a psycho but he had a lot of followers. so imagine that! it is impossible for a person to not have a special person who cares for him/her. there WILL be a person to come.

i hope you stay strong with the current situation. i know it's very hard but remember: don't give up and everything happens for a reason. have the patience to wait and something good WILL come out. think positive and criticism is vital. there is going to be a person who will care for you no matter what. if you ever need me, i'm always available. just email me. good luck and take care!