Talking to my best friend about her new bf?

[Spencer]

Ok my best friend is dating an old bf for the 3rd time. I DO NOT like him. Hes a chill guy but i cant trust him with her. He always hurts her in the end. Idk what to do. I dont want them dating. They got back together on new years eve. I checked her twitter (she doesnt known i see it) and it sounds like she doesnt want to be with him though. Idk what to do. Any help? I want to tell her i dont want her dating him but i dont want to make her mad in the process. Please help! Ill answer yours!

[Pritchard]

You cant force your friend to do anything. Just tell her how you feel, and then if she takes on your advice then good for her, if she doesn't then she will eventually realise.

[Sasha]

I had a similiar situation with my best friend back in high school. The guy was a complete jerk and she was having so much family drama she just ran back to him every time for that comfort zone. All i can say is if she crys on your shoulder time and time again about him its goanna get old. Let her know that but don't say anything more. If you bad mouth him shes just goanna defend him more and you'll end up pushing her farther to him.

[NaSTY]

Its good that you are looking out for her and there is no way around this without you looking like a meddler.Talk to her and then leave her to learn the lessons of life herself.

[Howuudoinggg0000]

I feel like you should nicely remind her of all the bad things he has done to her. Like instead of being like "I HATE HIM! BREAK UP WITH HIM NOW" say something like "Listen, I know you love your boyfriend because you continue to take him \back even when he does you wrong. I'm tired of seeing you hurt and as a best friend I need to let you know that he's just not right for you. I don't want you to look stupid because eventually that's what it is going to look like if this continue. He's a nice guy and all but he's just not for you."

[Nikkita]

the best thing to do is to try and remind her of the things that he had done in the past to hurt her and hope that she responds, if she doesn't that im sorry but you have to leave her make her own chooses and hope that if it does end your there to comfort her.
hope this helped.

[Jade]

Let her know how you feel, but if she doesn't listen to you and still wants to be with him, support her or your friendship will be compromised.

Hope I helped,

Jade <3

[Towanda]

Ever heard about the messenger getting shot. It's her life and that could be a difficult thing to hear from a friend. You really don't have the right to tell anyone you don't want them dating someone. That's way too harsh. I might be tempted....at the right time...to say something like I hope he doesn't hurt you again and see where that goes. It's better to be a good friend and let her make her own mistakes. Like a friend of mine told me when I was hung up on an old love that just wasn't good for me. I knew I needed to let it all go but I just kept hanging on. She told me that my problem will solve itself. Somewhere in the future he will screw up and I'll look at him and be done. It will hurt but it will be over. She was right. You have to let your friend work her feelings out. They must have chemistry. A good friend is just there when needed. It sounds as though she will need you. If you feel you have to say something...bide your time and what you say...easy does it.

[Lena]

I went through the same thing with my friend. Just be honest with her. And you know, she may get offended, but you need to let her know that you're concerned because she's your best friend. Here's what I would say. Let's say your friends name is Anna and her bf's name is Ryan.

"Anna, I understand that you like having a boyfriend, but I wish you could find someone who would treat you better. I wish you wouldn't date Ryan. I'm not saying that to ruin our friendship, but he always hurts you, and when he does, I'm always the one that sits there and comforts you. I don't understand why you keep going back when he always hurts you. I'm not going to root for your relationship to fail, but when he hurts you again, I'm gonna say I told you so. You deserve better. And I'm saying that because I care about yoU>"

Just say something along those lines so she knows that your concerned for her.