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*PLEASE READ* Is my friend getting too thin again!?
02-15-2013, 11:14 PM
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*PLEASE READ* Is my friend getting too thin again!?
I've posted this three times, with no replies I'm really worried someone please give me some advise!

So, my best friends means a lot to me but she has always been seriously obsessed with her weight. She has being going up and down for years but she has never been even near overweight. Last year she lost about a stone in two weeks and she looked so ill, she stopped eating and we were at school one day when she collapsed. This was right before the holidays, she got the last few days off and then she went to stay with her aunt in London for 3 weeks, she wasn't allowed contact with us. When she came back, she had put on a bit of weight and over the next month or so she managed to put on weight to look healthy again. I believe she has struggled with depression although she has never told me this to my face. Recently she hasn't been eating lunch telling me she is 'just not hungry' or 'I ate breakfast today' and she comes to school upset and won't tell me what is wrong, I don't think she knows. She doesn't look any where near as bad as she did in the summer, but this is how it started last time. She has a twitter page that she doesn't think I know about and put this picture up with a tag saying "Um... I just ate but it's a new shirt." She's a really smart girl all A's and A*'s. I don't know why she would try to put herself down. I know she doesn't look too bad, but it's a lot thinner than before christmas.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/90263971@N06/8358321953/

What do you think I should do, she is 16. I'm just really worried about her...
Oh right, sorry about the private. I've fixed it now.

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02-15-2013, 11:22 PM
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Hi, if she suffers from depression you will find that she will be upset however with her eating I can understand how worried you would get especially from previous experiences but my advice would be talk to her let her know your always there for her and if she wants to be slim but healthy you have to have 3 meals a day and vary your food groups if not you'll be bloated. Tell her that you understand how she's feeling and tell her not to get upset because your there and so is her family and friends and most importantly tell her about the past and that she doesn't want to get to that state again hope it helped

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02-15-2013, 11:22 PM
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Just tell her you're worried. And make it obvious you're here to listen and you wont judge. If all else fails and you get very worried, tell a teacher/parent.
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02-15-2013, 11:22 PM
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the pic is private.
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02-15-2013, 11:22 PM
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She sounds like she might be anorexic, and maybe has been on thinspo...

I went though i similar situation as her and my best friend was there to support me. She made me promise her that i would eat three meals aday, and that if i didnt she would skip a meal her self in order to compensate for how i upset her and how important eating meals was. The thing is the thought of her putting herself in pain for me made me realise that our friendship was more important than my wieght.

Since she hasnt mentioned this stuff try not to obessess over her , made sure she knows you care
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02-15-2013, 11:22 PM
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The pic of her does look very skinny, I can see her bones or ribs, so that does not look healthy. You are a good friend for being concerned, and by your description I would also agree that she is obsessed with her weight. To help her, have a talk with her and tell her you are concerned. Be positive and offer her compliments on her appearance, but not too much or she will think your are being fake. There are many stories online about people who have been obsessed with their weight and were anorexic and bulimic, so show her a video or story about a person whos life was ruined by it, and another about how they overcame it. Alot of the time people do not understand the consequences of their actions and by seeing someone elses life, it will open their eyes. She needs to see the road she is going down and how she can change it. Other than that, always be there for her and is it awesome that you care.
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02-15-2013, 11:22 PM
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i would need to know her height and weight to now if she is under weight or not and the link you put the picture is private so i cant view it, it sound like your a good friend keep up the good work and just try your best to talk to her show her that she is not fat make her look at the good parts of herself not the bad if that doesn't work show her how to lose weight through eating healthy and exercise cause starving your self can lead to a lot of bad things what you said "she passed out or fainted" is just one example but try your best to not lead her into losing weight in the first place!
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