Why does my ex bf still hate me?

[Elle]

Me and my ex boyfriend have been broken up for over a year now and had a really intense relationship. We loved each other, borderline obsessed, however I hurt him too much (wont get into it) and we broke up after about a year. It was sort of me that broke up with him but then I realised I had been being silly and tried to get him back but he didn't want it.

It took me a longggg time to get over him and I'm not even sure I still am. Anyway we had some bitter feuds for a few months then absolutely no contact. In this time I thought things had become civil, he said happy birthday to me on my facebook I did the same when it was his birthday and in July he asked me a favour and it was all very nice and civil and I was happy because all I wanted was for us to not hate each other and to move on because that was the best thing to do. Since July I haven't spoken to him.

Or maybe he was just pretending to be nice because recently I noticed a comment from his twitter which someone retweeted which was very much directed at me. Also a girl who he is friends with had a sort of dig at me on twitter after something I had said and he retweeted it when he was drunk and made out it was a good thing what she had said.

So now I realise that we are very much not civil anymore, at least he isn't because he evidently still hates me. I only wish him the best and although sometimes I do get nostalgia and feel lonely I realise we have both changed and there's not a chance we can get back together.

I've heard that hate is very close to love but the feeling I get is that his hatred for me is bitter and really strong which hurts me because I haven't said anything to him. We had a rocky relationship and I admit I ruined it and deeply hurt him but I don't understand why more than a year later he still hates me? We were first loves and all that but I don't understand what I've done?

[_Laura_x]

You're right, there's such a fine line between hate and love. You obviously hurt him bad, and it's still taking him time to get over that hurt. Maybe he's so angry and hurt still because he still loves you.

[Amateuractor976]

You've been broken up for over a year. Stop driving yourself crazy over all of this. Seriously, I hate my ex and he was my first love. When I say hate, I mean hate from the depths of my soul. I mean, there is nothing he could ever do to make it up to me or get back in my good graces, and I haven't spoken to him in 5 years. That's just the way things go sometimes.

You can't control how someone else feels about you. Sometimes there's no understanding it, sometimes there are no explanations. Everything in love doesn't always get resolved to your satisfaction. You can't worry over a guy who isn't even your boyfriend anymore. All of that energy that you're wasting on trying to figure this out could have been better spent with you learning to move on and love someone else. Let it go.

[Sham Wow]

If you do something to really hurt a guy, it can break their hearts. It may take a long time for him to forgive you. Men too have feelings

[Laure]

You have been"civil"but have not resolved your issues.He probably tries to put it all behind him,but he`s been deeply hurt and possibly has difficulty dealing with the fact.Us girls speak of emotional matters with more ease than men,so we get to vent our feelings with other sympathetic folks and get some feedback and comfort,but it does not happen so easily for guys usually.Interesting that his negative comments were uttered when he was drunk.You can`t be sure his comment on twitter which you say was "very much directed at you"actually really was.And why would that "someone"re tweet such a comment to you,that sounds really bitchy.If you want to be friends,why not ask him directly to meet,express a proper apology(expect a few hurtful comments)and try to clear the air between you.