i really find this guy cute, we used to talk and i said i didnt want to and then we stopped should i say sorry?

[Tiffany]

i really found this guy attractive at school i still a little bit do, i told him he was good looking in person. he was a shy type and then he turned red, and said thanks weeks later he followed me on twitter and he inboxed me and we started talking but i really didnt hope for anything major i knew he talked to all the girls that dislike me or laugh at me. so i told him i don't think we should talk because i don't want to start any hate or anything with anyone, and he understood i guess but we stopped talking i feel bad now i don't know if i should say sorry or not? is it going to make a difference or will he just feel good just like every guy

i really need your opinion thank you

[Marina]

If you really intend to talk to him again, then say you're sorry and tell him you won't do it again.

[Karenee]

That was a really hurtful way to deal with the problem, if you think about it. What would you think if someone told you, "We can't be friends because other people might not like it?" and doing so right after you have accepted their offer to be your friend. Don't offer friendship if you don't mean it. Seriously.

I know how it is to hurt people myself just because I'm afraid they will hurt me. The only way to be a true friend is to accept that it will hurt sometimes, but to decide ahead of time that you'll learn from the pain and become a better person. In the long run, people generally suffer less on the way to building quality friendships that add joy and value to life than by living in isolation and self-protection.

If you can overcome this fear of others enough to stop feeling bad about being his friend, then go apologize. If you can't follow through, then you'll just keep hurting him and it might be better to let things be.

It's okay for him to befriend people you don't get along with, as long as he isn't bad-mouthing you. He might even be able to help them understand you better so you won't have as much trouble with them.

Look at the reality of who he is and how he acts to decide whether you can trust him to be a true friend, but don't drop him because he "might" hurt you. In that case you're the one who has damaged the friendship, not him. If he's a sensitive person or really liked you, that hurt could last a long time.

Wouldn't it hurt you to be treated that way?