I'm a lesbian but I'm scared to tell anyone what should I do?

[cici]

I am 13 and I'm a lesbian but I am scared to come out of the closet. I'm afraid of what my family will think. I have gay friends ad one of them told me that his father told him that he wasn't gay and didn't accept him. And I'm scared that might happen to me, what should I do?

[Bree]

take it slow your only 13 you dont really know for sure right now trust me i had a friend like you but she started liking boys after 5 months but if u still like girls just come out and say it your family will love you for you no matter what

[Zhi Li]

I missed it. The new law that said it was illegal not to disclose your orientation to everybody in the world. Did that one go into effect right after the law that required all menstruating girls to tie a red handkerchief around their heads? Or was it after the law requiring you to announce when you had your last bowel movement when you meet someone for the first time each day?
Why on Earth do you think you need to announce your sexual orientation? Whose business is it?
You can tell your parents once you are out of college if you have this burning need to spill personal information.
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With on line chatting, you really can't claim there is no place to go to talk to girls like yourself. Just be careful.

[IU]

Back to normal..you can change my dear..If i were you..i will try my harder to change because i dont want to lose my family..think about your mum and dad..because of them..you are in this world..

[Lily]

First of all I want you to know there is nothing wrong with you being attracted to other women. I am a Christian woman and I believe sexuality is no more a choice than being straight. Lots of towns have LGBT groups and clubs that are very helpful to adolescents dealing with the stigma that there is something wrong with their sexuality or how to approach family members. Try searching for a group like that in your town, see if they have a website and message them.

Remember something important when it comes to non-gay friends: Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter.

As far as family goes, allow me to tell you a little story. My sister is lesbian, too. She's been with her wife for nearly four years now. My father still has trouble hearing her talk about her wife and changes the subject on her. He does, however, list my sister-in-law as his daughter-in-law on Facebook. That took him a long time though, honey. He had to do a lot of growing up to get to that point, as sad as I am to say it.

Two years ago, I came out as being bi-sexual to my mother. It was scary for me to do because she thought being bi meant you would Woo-hoo with anyone. I told my sister, aunt, and my younger cousin. I told most of my friends. But honestly? I have not told my father and step-mother because I saw what my sister went through and continues to go through. I did not tell my grandmother because she is an old school Christian.

Sometimes parents are hard to talk to about things like this. Do you have an older sibling, trusted aunt or cousin you could come out to first? That may help you figure out how to approach your family. Every family dynamic is different.

Most importantly, you will ALWAYS be accepted. Sometimes family fails us, but that's why we have friends. Find a trusted family member. Talk to them. If that goes bad, remember, you still have your friends and the LGBT community and (no matter what the "Christian" shout or put on signs) God loves you. <3

[john]

to thine own self be true