How to forget a guy you can't get out of your head?

[Longwaytogo]

Two weeks ago, I met a guy whom I thought could lead to something but it turns out he is not interested. I'm kind of bummed because I tried my best to get him out of my head but in vain.

I was walking home from my work xmas party and he approached me. He was having a bad day and was looking for a drinking buddy. I refused the drink but we ended up talking for a while and it was really nice. We talked about all kind of things and he opened to me. He even told me I seemed like such a nice girl. He wanted us to go for a bite but I was too scared to go anywhere with a stranger, especially past midnight ( you never know). Before I left, he asked to kiss me and I kissed him on the cheek and walked away. The next day, I found him on Facebook and sent him a short message. He replied right away, thanking me for the chat and wishing me happy holidays. I thought what the heck and sent him a friend request but he hasn't replied He's been on a cruise since last week. I thought he was just some loser in the street but it turns out he's actually a successful real estate broker who works for his family's business. I'd really like to get to know him and at least become friends.

I won't chase him because if he's into me, he'll let me know, which is not the case. It just irks me that I really can't seem get him out of my head. I usually quickly forget about guys who aren't into me but I really felt something when I was talking to him.

[Ailish]

you should not forget him. you should talk to him meet oftener and then see where it ends up

[MinaAmore]

First get the fantasy out your head. Realize and accept that there is not much you can do. Don't cyber stalk the dude. Your story reads like he wanted a one nighter. You, not so much. If he wants you you will know.

[Davon]

Don't chase him! Trust me if he likes you he would come around more I like this girl and no matter how hard my day goes with her I wont give up because I like her so much I wont give up! I bet your beautiful and he's to dum not to see it. Play your favorite sport go to the mall with friends. Do anything but sit around and think about him. He will come back if he truely likes you! Good luck I will pray for you have a wonderful day!

[Granny D]

It takes time. Don't rush yourself. With the holidays and all, we're all caught up in unusual demands on our time, and it takes time to gat back to normal.

You probably are thinking somewhere down deep that he could still accept you as a friend on Facebook--which could happen. Or not. Not everyone conducts all their contacts via Facebook or other social media, and there is still the postal service. You could, for example, select a neutral but humorous card, write a note in it referring to the concern he had that originally prompted him to accost you, say you hope he solved his problem, and post it to him (as you would to any absent friend who is on your mind). Then if you hear back, you will have a better idea of what, if anything, exists between you. If not, then it may be easier to relegate the incident to fantasy land and get on with your everyday life.

Remember, you have no idea what has gone on in his life since that night that he is not posting about on Facebook. You have seen An Affair to Remember, haven't you?