I wish I was more of a mean person?

[SoftballGirl]

Okay this sounds weird lol but it's not so much that I wish I was more mean but I wish I didn't care what people thought of me and stuff. Like for example before I post a tweet or something on twitter I think "what if this person saw it and omg they'll think I'm weird or stupid" or if someone's mean to me I just ignore it. I know that's what you should do but I'm tired of letting people run over me. Nobody really bullies me but it's simple stuff. I think to much. How can I get this? By the way I'm almost 15.

[cray]

IMO, most people have a hard time breaking free from worrying about what other people think until they get out of high school where there is a more intense, closed system where the same people see each other every day & comparisons are always happening, pressure to be a certain way sometimes, & all that.

If you get out around a lot of other people, like friends of family members, neighbors, people of different ages, different situations, etc., it's easier to see how little what other people think matters, and also that the more you learn to feel comfortable about who you are & doing what your interests lead you to do, & just basically following your own inside compass, the more other people will find you to be interesting and cool. People are attracted to & tend to admire other people who have a good sense of identity, of who they are, what they like, where they want to go, what they're interested in, and seem comfortable being themselves.

[Jane]

Nothing wrong with thinking and thinking more of yourself, than others is not a bad thing. You can choose whether to address an issue or not, it will just depend on how much importance you place on this and whether you choose to give it your time or not. So, its putting yourself first and deciding whether to give the other guy a second thought or not, is again your choice. You hold this power, don't forget this because you are just as important and your comment matters just as much as anyone else. Don't think about it, own it and know it. Take care.

[Penny]

overcome your weakness and be happy, just do yourself , don't care too much

[Naguru]

Well. If you are genuinely interested, be mentally stable and strong. Have good mental steadiness. Please don't yield and get tempted. If you are well organized, systematic, and highly principled in life, no power on earth can shake you. It is impossible for them to confuse you. It requires lot of presence of mind and common sense. Please don't adopt uncommon routes to reach your destination. Ask for guidance from those who have already traveled in that route.

[Justme19]

I used to be like that too. Don't worry about it. Just be yourself and don't worry about what others think. If you worry about what you are gonna do before you do it and keep questioning what are they gonna think if.. You'll lead a dull, boring life and try to please other people. it's impossible to please everyone, so don't worry about.

[Sharon G]

Just remember what goes around comes around---there IS a law of cause and effect.
what you do or give out to other people does come back to you

[Mary Ann]

Even though I'm only 12 (I'm using my moms account) I sorta have the same idea. What you need to do is just take a moment at home or where ever and think of all the good stuff in life. Your friends family and just realize, "Wow. Am I lucky or what. I don't care what anybody says this is perfect." And you also need to realize and just take a moment in the mirror to realize how beautiful you REALLY are! I used to hate my freckles and shape of my face not to go along with the fact of small tinted areas. But one day I just thought, "Look. I am perfect and fine." It may take a while, but sooner or later you'll have an epiphany and realize it. I know you probably hear this everywhere, but you are beautiful. Perfect. Worth it.