Can't stand teen mothers?

[Jennifer-Rocket]

Are shows like Teen Mom and 16 and Pregnant glorifying teenage pregnancy? Are not enough parents talking to their daughters and sons?

I read all the teenagers on here either worried about being pregnant or are pregnant and they don't know what to do. It drives me insane!

I'm a 24 year old married woman with an education and a good job and stable home activly seeking to become pregnant, which is taking forever and reading about allthese unprepared children getting pregnant makes me so angry!

If you can't support a child on your own without your parents or government assistance you have no business having babies and if you can't have safe protected sex you are too young and stupid to be having sex!

Anyone agree or is this just me?

[Brittany]

Agreed and beyond that pregnancy sucks. but I wish you luck

[angel]

I agree in part. The KIDS on here drive me insane too...

but I feel that you are only angry at them because they have done effortlessly, with no thought, what you are trying to do. It won't help you if you aim your anger at them. (What if it was a married 16yr old, I bet you would still think them irresponsible)

I rate the shows though... I think they don't glorify how having a baby is at all... I make my 12yr old watch with me all the time, so she can see for herself just how hard it is and how it can ruin a relationship.

[Tina Mabon]

I agree with some of the things that you are saying, a lot of girls are way into getting pregnant at an early age just because they see shows like 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom. However it was never intended to glorify teen pregnancy it was meant to show the struggles that young parents have. I'm a product of a teen mother whom I was not raised by but do know I do not however know who my father is for the simple fact that he split from my mom when I was just a couple of months. So yes I agree but hey stuff happens and eventually you are gonna have to take responsibility for your actions.

[B.]

First of all, shit happens. No, not all teenagers use protection. But I am only 17. Used a condom and im on birth control. But i still got pregnant. I am doing well actually. Im done with high school, out of my parents house, and have an okay paying job. NOT ALL teenagers are that irrespnsible. Its the media that makes it seem so bad.

[MBMMUMMY]

I don't think you should label it as "TEEN MOTHER" My age has teen in it (19) but im far from what you are saying. i was 18 when i fell pregnant i had already been with my partner for 4 years we had our own house, well paying jobs & we both completed year 12. 2 months before our daughter was born we became engaged & now our daughter will be one in less then a month & our wedding is in two so i don't think you should label TEEN MOTHERS because not once have my parents supported me while pregnant or since my daughter has been born & i only used the government until she was 5 months old which is when i went back to work.

[Josie]

You sound very bitter and judging. I was 19 when I had my first baby, 20 when I had my second. Me and my fiancé had been together 5 years and are home owners, my partner has a very good job that more than supports us.

Try to be less judge mental, and insulting not all "teenage mothers" are the same. And some older mothers I know are worse parents than "teenage mothers"

[Rosey]

Im 15 and pregnant, i used a condom but it split, i made the decision to have sex so im dealing with the consequences. I do understand where your coming from, the show 16 and pregnant is about teens who get pregnant within months of dating their boyfriend, i was with my boyfriend a year and half when we decided the time was right, we are in a stable relationship and i have support from all my family and friends, we have money and everything and my boyfriend has a job, so not all teen mums are the same.

[Anonymuz]

Although it is true that that shows such as Teen Mom may glorify teenage pregnancy, there are a lot of factors to be considered before judging. First off, society seems to paint motherhood as a beautiful perfect picture. Many young girls fail to recognize the reality of actually being a parent. I am not speaking for everyone, but I am very young myself, so I've heard the "I want a baby" by friends not out of high school. They are thinking about how fun it would be to have a child. Not about the time and effort that is required to raise a decent human being, let alone the lack of sleep and diaper changes. To complicate things more, I have met many girls that have come from bad backgrounds. They have a false sense having a child will complete their life, someone will love them, etc. It is sad, yet very true. I had a child when I was 17. My sister had her first at 15. We both lived very traumatic lives, and had to learn most things on our own. I wasn't ready for a child, so I chose adoption. My point being, not everything is black and white. It is good that you are fortunate enough to be stable and I wish you all the luck getting pregnant. With that being said, hang in there and gain some perspective before bashing others.

[Anonymuz]

Yeah, we can't stand close minded judgmental people like you either. You're implying that we either depend on our parents or get government assistance. Well I'm 18, and although I don't have the title of a college graduate I do tend to educate myself as much possible, my partner also has a good job and a flourishing business, and we live in a nice four bedroom home. I believe my child was well deserved, even though I was 15 because even at that age I was having a hard time conceiving. Contraceptives are a choice, and we chose not to use them because we wanted a child. I don't think that I was "too young or stupid" to have sex since we were prepared for the possibility of a child every month.

It's not just you, almost everyone believes that it's okay to trash teenagers who have chosen to keep their babies rather than abort them even if they know nothing about these girls. Anyone having sex can get pregnant and it's people from all social classes and ethnicity. We're not all the same welfare queens that you people assume that we are .

Nobody looks at the drama on Teen Mom and 16 and Pregnant and thinks that it's the funnest thing ever, especially with all the crying and misery on there. Instead it promotes fathers leaving their pregnant girlfriends, or encourages girls to get abortions rather than to parent.

Have you ever actually talked to a teenage mother in person? Most are nowhere near what the media makes us appear like.