"Relationship" advice...?

[Julia Shingleton]

Yep, I've turned to Yahoo Answers for relationship advice. Maybe because my girlfriends are away in Barbados and have no way of contacting me (which for now, is probably for the best) but also because my emotions have taken over and my knowledge left with it, here's the situation:

I've been with this guy for about a year and half, and yes I fell in love with the dude. At first, I was the one who wasn't really serious about it and kinda messed around, and maybe wasn't the most faithful of people, BUT that lasted very shortly because I finally figured out what I wanted, and that was to be in a serious relationship with this guy I fell in love with. Things were going really well until last night..I see him liking these girls tweets on twitter saying things like "He is really sweet and cute, and I really think I love him. " stuff like that..THEN I see him tweet "she is beautiful and she doesn't even know it." so I text him and ask him about it and he says it was about me and I had nothing to worry about. He then later called me and I told him if he had ANYTHING to come clean about, he should confess now and not let me find out anything later, he reassures me that everything is okay. Naturally as the "crazy" girlfriend I am, I check this girl out to see that she was in fact talking about my man, so I'm just like "hold the f*ck up..." I text him and call him out and he calls me apologizing saying he's sorry and all this..telling me he can't go on without me blah,blah, blah. He also tells me she lives very far from up and things just got "out of hand" We are still together the morning but I am questioning it, because this is not the first time he has done something like this. He was calling this other girl baby, telling her she was beautiful, but I am supposed to believe it means nothing?

OKAY, that was long but it only sums things up..Should I continue to be with him and work things out, or move on from this mess?

[kieran27]

It doesnt sound like, other than mutual distrust for each other, you have very much in common.

Be fair, men arent as dumb as you think. Even if you got away clean with messing around, like you, he sensed something was wrong and not to take you but so seriously too. Dont be offended by that statement...you cant have it both ways. You cant say that just because you cheated on him in the past that...well thats the past. It still reflects you didnt really take him seriously to begin with.

Here is the thing, if you two arent a good match..and are seeking others...you can have all the good feelings and even love in the world for each other...youre gonna keep finding yourselves in someone elses arms until someone gets REALLY hurt. It may be you, it may be him.

But you cant have it both ways. You cant cheat and expect him to play fair while you figure out what you want, and then expect him to continue to play by your rules.

Im sorry if that sounds harsh, it is.

[ShAWty]

If You are 100% percent sure You love him and if You see a future with him then give him another chance it sounds that whatever he was doing didnt progress beyond mere back n forward messages,it coulda been worse than that.