Do You Think I Should Go to His Birthday Party? He shows interest in me sometimes, but then ignores me. 10pts?

[Jae]

A month ago I got a random facebook message from a guy I met in college. We exchanged numbers over fb and have been texting on and off ever since. (He even texted me once asking if I wanted to go to dinner with him, but I was too busy unfortunately since I own a small business.) When I see him randomly we’ll hug, and he’ll compliment my clothes and jewelry.

HOWEVER, for the past two weeks he’s been texting me first and when I’d respond he wouldn’t answer me. Then he’d text me many days later apologizing and claiming he was “feeling antisocial/tired/working, etc. But once when I checked his twitter, I saw that he had made plans to chat with a girl online after work. He texted me early the next morning apologizing about how he was SO tired after work, and went to bed right away, which wasn’t true.

He ignored my last text to him for 7 days (when he texted *me* first) BUT THEN, he texted me on Christmas morning at 8:00am apologizing for his late replies, claiming it was because of work/feeling anti-social. He wished me a merry Christmas, and I texted him back hours later and wished him a good one as well. On the 27th he texted me saying that we "had to discuss DJango. We HAVE to." Since both happened to see it on Christmas - separately. I chose to ignore his text for the 1st time ever. The next day he made a "Birthday Event" on Facebook, and invited me. I still haven't responded to it yet but I'm really considering not going. Partly because of what's been going on between us for the past month, but also because I don't have any means of getting there. (We live in different cities and by bus it would take me +2 hours.) What do you think I should do? And would you go to his party??

[KarenL]

NO, This sound like a trap and you may be putting yourself in danger. If I guy does not want to be seen with you or ignores you now --- Why do you think he will treat you differently. Attending a social event that is public and you have the means to depart alone is always a good strategy for safety.

The guy is seeking a gift from you --- invitation to a birthday party ---- Get real.