I may have scared off the guy I like?

[Trans-Alex]

There's this guy at work, I've always liked him but he's quite a bit older than me and with how sweet and cute he is I figured there was no way he was single so I stayed away and didnt let him know that I liked him. Well in the past few months I found out he is single and we've talked a lot and gotten much closer as friends. I sent him a friend request on Facebook last month and it took him over two weeks to accept it. He told me that he just doesn't like using his laptop much cause he has to stand in a certain spot to get a good wifi signal. Well in the last few days I've been making it more obvious how I feel, and trying to judge his reaction to it. He seemed to enjoy it. But then Friday I think I may have gone too far. I made it so extremely obvious that I liked him. At first he seemed to enjoy it still, he's a lonely older man who doesn't seem to have girls after him often and it seemed like he loved knowing that I liked him. But as the day went he seemed to stay away more and more. Then he just wouldn't talk to me at all. At the end of the day I was standing where I always am, he always passes me and says "cya tomorrow/Monday" to me. He didnt this time. Well, I didn't think much of it. It had been a long day for us all and everyone was exhausted. Well, Saturday morning I got on Facebook and went to reply to a message. A few down was the last message I had sent him, but instead of his name it now says "Facebook user". He blocked me. So now I don't know what to do. Did I scare him away? He's a great guy, very sensitive and shy...I don't want to scare him off. Especially since I have to see him everyday at work and I'm extremely shy and he's the only one I can really talk to easily. Is there anyway I can fix this without possibly scaring him more?

[Jordan]

Well, it's kind of hard for me to say, but I'll give it a try.

Based on what you said, it sounds like you scared him away.

Now, I'm not going to say how bad that may be, because I'm not sure what you mean by "extremely obvious." If you ran and kissed him and said "I Will Always Love You!" I would say that he is going to take some time to get back to normal. Considering that you said he took two weeks to ad you on Facebook, but only a day to block you, I'd bet he will need some time anyway.

My advice would be to lay off him for a while, then start building back up the space between one another. When you see him at work, be casual. Treat him the way you did when you thought he was taken.

Over time he should become more open to talking to you again. I hope this helps.