should I tell my boyfriend I know he lied?

[tracey_richards9]

Hi there - this is my first post and I feel so silly but I really need some advise.
My ex husband cheated on me and left a couple of years ago so I'm aware that I carry a certain amount of paranoid feelings in my new year long relationship with an amazing man.
As a surprise for his 40th Birthday I've been contacting his family and friends to put together a photobook. Most of them are abroad or he's lost touch with so I've used his email and facebook to get their details...big mistake I know. He's always told me his passwords .
I noticed he had sent a friend a message in the early months of us going out telling her when he bumped into her she looked amazing and gorgeous. No more contact since then
I did ask him about it - was honest and said I'd seen the message and he said he was really sorry and gutted he'd done it with innocent intentions. She was a friend of his sisters and he didnt really know her and nothing to worry about.
That paranoid feeling took over and I've since seen that they were in the past "f*ck buddies"...from looking through old messages.
I'm certain he is faithful to me and I don't want to cause issues but I'm just really hurt he was not honest about the original nature of the relationship. Its not that he's had a past and done things with other women its that he was not honest about who she was when I asked.
Do I let this piece of information just go or do I tell him I know and in doing so give away the who birthday surprise I've spend hours and hours working on?
I know this probably seems really petty I just really need some advice. Thank you so much for reading this.

[Poppet]

Dead honest, it doesn't matter what she was to him before you came into the picture. What matters now is what he does with you. To him she was a nothing or at best a space holder until something better shows up.

You need to let this go. You are looking for drama. You are looking for a reason to fight. You are looking for a reason to distrust.