To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?

[The Gladiator]

[Naguru]

Frankly speaking, it fluctuates based on my mood and mental health conditions.

[weasel]

What is you but judgement? What decides everything you do but judgement? You create your beliefs, then, as things come to you, you act based upon those beliefs, which creates a sort of automatic choose your adventure. If you want to change the course of your life then first you change your beliefs.

You can look at people and see the clear evidence of this, you know people who desire money, look at where they are, you know people who desire pleasure, look at where they are, you know people who desire aversion from responsibilities, look at where they are. Where they are is the natural course of their desires interacting with externals. Choose what you value and what you do not carefully.

[Pushpa Selvam]

I think, My Life is In Its Own Control, But, with the Self Control, I am Moving , with It.

[wichitaor1]

Almost all of it. People do control their own lives; some just blame others or fate or other reasons for their own mistakes.

[Generalist]

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When I thought i was controlling my life, i was just responding to fears, and arrogance.

When i learned ho to dissolve fears, and arrogance, my life began to look like what i wanted.

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[canron4peace]

This is the easiest question to answer I have seen today. We each of us and all of us do exactly that every moment of our lives. There are absolutely no accidents. We do have outside influences but in the final analysis, from a much broader perspective than we are usually aware of, usually a what we call spiritual and unconscious one, we are totally in control. How to prove this? Take responsibility, learn to focus energy toward the subjects we would prefer to make up our lives and start our personal creation process. As an older person I have gone over my past and have seen clearly that good or bad, I was the one. It does however take effort to change a habit but slowly it can be done. It gets easier every day.

[J]

Some. Probably helped by "Man, Master of His Destiny," Omraam Aivanhov, and "The Path of the Higher Self," Mark Prophet, and "Watch Your Dreams," Ann Ree Colton. Right choices tend to increase freedom and control....

[Erraticvisitor702]

Virtually none. Wanted to get college degree - didn't mostly because of economics. Work in an industry my father worked in because he got me hired for my first job in it. It's a cool industry (construction trades & general contracting) and I've loved most of my jobs in it but that's just luck, I didn't control it or choose it. I work where I had family influence, I live in a house a dead relative owned and inlaws asked us to move into, ended up buying it only for that reason because family gave us a great deal so I didn't really control or choose that either.

Typical white middle class "success" story: Dad got me hired into a profession for which I was unqualified then family sold me an inherited house at a discount. No, I've never controlled or chosen anything but that's not really a complaint, I never expected to control or choose anything because that's really our natural condition, we don't choose to eat food, construct shelter and raise children, we just react and adapt to the environment we encounter. I suppose I could just as easily say reacting and adapting is 'control' so guess maybe it's complicated; we sort of control nothing but at the time, sort of controlling everything.