Do You Think I Should Go to His Birthday Party? He shows interest in me sometimes, but then ignores me. 10pts?

[Jae]

A month ago I got a random facebook message from a guy I met in college. We exchanged numbers over fb and have been texting on and off ever since. (He even texted me once asking if I wanted to go to dinner with him, but I was too busy unfortunately since I own a small business.) When I see him randomly we’ll hug, and he’ll compliment my clothes and jewelry.

HOWEVER, for the past two weeks he’s been texting me first and when I’d respond he wouldn’t answer me. Then he’d text me many days later apologizing and claiming he was “feeling antisocial/tired/working, etc. But once when I checked his twitter, I saw that he had made plans to chat with a girl online after work. He texted me early the next morning apologizing about how he was SO tired after work, and went to bed right away, which wasn’t true.

He ignored my last text to him for 7 days (when he texted *me* first) BUT THEN, he texted me on Christmas morning at 8:00am apologizing for his late replies, claiming it was because of work/feeling anti-social. He wished me a merry Christmas, and I texted him back hours later and wished him a good one as well. Yesterday he texted me saying that we "had to discuss DJango. We HAVE to." Since both saw it on Christmas (separately). I didn’t reply. YESTERDAY he made a "Birthday Event" on Facebook, and invited me. I haven't responded to it yet and I'm really considering not going due to what's been going on between us for the past month, but also because I don't have any means of getting there. (We live in different cities and by bus it would take me +2 hours.) What do you think I should do? And would you go to his party??

[Jeff]

You should go

[Poopfire4]

If it was me, I wouldn't go. The guy acts too moody. I want a guy that is clear about what he wants. I don't like guys that pull me around. Guys that don't respond to texts aren't worth it in my book. It's more enjoyable having a guy that is consistently friendly instead of one day wanting to talk, then one day not feeling like it. The excuse "feeling antisocial" is such bullshit. That's just a nice way of saying he doesn't want to talk. That's just what I imagine if a guy said that to me.

[leftcoastliz]

No, don't go. IMHO, he's just not that into you. You can do better.