Confused about a boy?

[Jasmine88]

there is a guy I met when I went to get my phone contract changed, he added a discount to my contract and helped me start setting up my new phone.
Went in to thank him the next day & wanted to ask for his number cause I really fancied him but bottled it.
He text me the next day to say my verification went through. from then on (August 2012) we kept talking and got closer and closer.
Eventually found out he had a child and he claimed he was a single dad. the child lost her mother just after she was born. Which I believed, had no reason to doubt him. I went on holiday in September but before I went I started following him on twitter. Towards the end of the hol I noticed that I was no longer following him and could not see his tweets, he blocked me (didnt want to let me in incase of hurting me)
Got back to the UK and he wanted to set some time aside to see me, but it never actually happened. He went really quiet and barely spoke to me, if he drove past me when I was going to or from work (we work in the same area of the city) he would ignore me.
So i sent him a message about not knowing what to say to him because he was really quiet, this was October time, round about when his daughter was born & apparently this time every year he would struggle with this and shied away every year. I realized in this time that he had been lying to me about his child's mother - she didn't die through child birth, they got married the year before she was born. I found out from one of his co-workers that he and this woman had recently split up and this is why he hasn't quite been himself which was fair enough, wasn't any of my business so i never interfered.
Eventually towards Nov he texted me and asked me out for a coffee to explain things, he had previously dropped me off home after one of our "dates" so he knew where I lived & now he kept passing my house.
He came up for tea and in Nov and Dec we got really close, things got heated, we spent a lot of time kissing each other, neither of us ready for sex , he would come round before work and take me to my work or he'd come over after work for a cuppa and always leave late. We talked a lot over text & he was saying he just needed time to work out what we were because his daughter is his priority always has been and always will be and he has no inclination of starting anything with anyone but he likes me and we get on well. I thought we would eventually get into a relationship. But over time he pushed me away again just before xmas, couldnt allow me to get close in fear of hurting me, but it was too late, it already happened. So we went three weeks without talking, on NYE he kept walking past my work, the first time looked in the window, tried not to make it obvious, to see if I was there (dont know why if he didnt want anything to do with me) and every other time bar once waved at me.
got no messages from him or got to speak to him
Just on monday there, i was working next door to him and had to go to his shop to borrow something we needed. After work i had to return it & he texted to say I was to stop and say hi. So he got me to sit and we had a chat. I had been ill that day and was getting worse after work so he told me to stay put and he would take me home. The boys in his work apparently knew he had been coming round to see me (despite the fact i think hes still married - but doesnt know I know this information)
He stayed for a cuppa again that night but through the rest of the week never bothered to get in touch with me. I had an appointment at the doctors on thursday and he knew other things havent been going too well for me so made a point to tell me I need to talk to the doctor about stuff and we would talk before my appointment - needless to say it never happened.
He kept telling me over the course of the months Im a good girl and I deserve good things, theres a boy out there who needs a girl like me just as i am, who that person is only time will tell but he's definitely out there (the exact words of his text) so naturally I thought he was insinuating him.
So I am struggling to forget him and get over him despite asking whether he wants me around or not and he's been ignoring me. Finding it really hard to move on especially when he isnt giving me any answers. Hes a 31 year old guy who says he is one of the good ones so why is he treating me like this and not giving me any straight answers? He's told me he doesnt play games or hurt anyone but he's doing exactly that.
When things were good & the connection we had when I first met him is everything I want in a guy - guys never want to go out with me (which he finds hard to believe - he had "a feeling" about me when we first met so obviously he picked up on the connection & chemistry too. If he is single, why can we not just be together - this connection we had for me is really rare and I just want to be with him

[thunderinghall575]

Seems like you should consider meeting up with that boy and bring up the situation.. Figure out the way to show that you are the convincing person to go for. you will need to make him believe that you are his "pet" to go for.

Good luck!