I love hum but my mother hates him. .?

[Tiana]

Ok so I've been w/ this guy a year and 2 months now. At first my mother liked him but then we got in trouble at shool, we were skipping school and other stuff. Then after that she didn't like him. She says he's cheating on me, he doesn't love me, he doesn't give a damn about me, he's no good and etc. but he's the total opposite of what she says about him. He says he loves me all the time , he talks about our future together, he has said that he wanted to make me his wife several times and yes we had sex several times and he didn't hit and leave. He buys me gifts and he's fairhful. He doesn't care if I go through his phone, I have his fb password and twitter. I didn't ask for it he gave it to me. But my question is, he's so sweet and good to me but my mother doesn't like him and says he's not the one for me. Is she right? Why is she saying this? Is she jealous of my happiness ?

[Sasha]

Follow your heart if it's meant to be its meant to be my moms like that too always saying all this stuff about the boy I use to date and hes a good guy just because your moms saying all this doesn't mean it's true she could be right but most likely shes only saying that because y'all got in trouble.

[Jamie-lee]

Well the answer is pretty much in your question! You said you started to get into trouble at school, via skipping it. That is why your mother doesn't like your boyfriend now. He may treat you nicely and be amazing, but the fact you'd been skipping school is going to worry your mother as she'll think that maybe his bad news. And she's saying all these things, because she's worried and clearly wants you to go to school to get some where in life...

[barthebear]

Skipping school is not helpful to you so if he persuaded you to do that, that is enough reason for your mother to be concerned. Since you are still in school, you are still maturing and lack the wisdom of experience your mother has. I know the saying ' Love is blind' and that you do not want to listen to your mother at this age; but try to step back from this romance and think of your future. Don't you need an education to fall back on once the hormonal influence of a 3 yr relationship wanes? I know how hard it is to think of anything except him now. So I will try to be realistic and say be patient and wait to marry. Meanwhile enjoy seeing him and ALWAYS use two methods of contraception. Condoms are not foolproof.

[Beach Bum]

2 months isn't very long.
You sound like a teenager. It sound like a very young relationship. She's concerned about your future with him, if he can be serious at all.
I was still getting to know my boyfriend at 2 months in. We've been together a year and a half and I'm still learning things about him. I know we can depend on each other if bad things happen.
Do you know how would he react if you ended up pregnant? I mean, it's a possibility, since you are having sex. Have you had serious conversation with him or has it all been about fun?
Until serious conversations happen, it's hard to tell if someone loves you.

[MO]

Sorry but your mother is right - he shd not be encouraging you to skip school. You both need to get good jobs later. This is not the way to go about it. If you cld prove to her that he is good for you - going to school, studying hard, she might come round. She is looking out for you.

Mo
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