Why can't I do anything? This question is not what you think.?

[Sharon]

I literally can't do anything. My whole life I was raised to believe everything would be handed to me so I never learned what hard work is or how to accomplish things and now that I am older I realize I'm lazy and don't care about anything. All the hobbies I used to have and things I loved to do I can no longer care about or want to do, I have trouble looking for work because I'd rather sit around and do nothing. I want great things for myself but I'm always tired and I just don't care about anything. I know I am depressed a lot and that is a source of it but even when I'm in a perfectly happy mood I still just don't care. I would like to care but I don't know how. I don't even know how to stay motivated. A lot of people underestimate what I am saying and try to tell me "Just... Go out and force yourself to do something" well, as simple as that logic seems it's not that easy, actually it's damn near impossible. My mind loves to come up with excuses and when I try to convince myself that there is no excuse and do finally do something it lasts for maybe half a day before I'm fucking up again and not caring again. I refuse to go to therapy because I don't have the money for it and I don't have the money for medications so I need to learn how to be successful by myself. Other advice I've gotten "If you're not going try anymore then enjoy being homeless and a loser rather than having lots of money and a successful life" and despite knowing this, I don't care. I mean, I do care in the sense that I get depressed and don't want to see myself like that but for some reason I can't bring myself to do anything or want to do anything. I just don't know why. I think I am self-destructive and don't know how to fix it. I don't know whats wrong with me. All I do is stare at facebook, I don't even refresh it I don't go on other sites I just sit and stare. Why? Why can't I be normal like everyone else and actually do something great for myself?

[john]

Go to the blog Bold and Determined

[Lady J]

Nothing changes if nothing changes

[nipo9]

It would be beneficial to see a psycologist purely because you might have a real form of mental illness I.E. mild form of autism. Who knows? There may be a very serious, Uncontrollable chemical imbalance in your brain that is destructive to your personal goals. Can you get financial aid for college? Colleg is fun, you get to pick a subject you lov and get a degree in it! You also ge to meet people with like interests! There is absolutely no risk in giving college a try. I understand, our generation was completely spoiled, rotten. I use to ditch school and smoke weed all day. But, like you, said, magine being homeless. If you can't magine it, go spen a night in the streets! Do it for yourself! Seriously! So I decided to go to college to be an electrician. My dream is to have my own small residential business, an buy a small pice of land in a wooded area, and build a cabin. I wan to fish every weekend, and farm a few chickens, veggies etc. and just live simple. So I'm working towards it. I'm 23 now, I'll be out of college in 9 months, and on a new track to reaching my goal. If you like clothes, go to college to design fashion. If you like apps, learn to design application, maybe you'll en up designing something that will strike gold! Just give yourself a chance.

[Ander F]

Sharon, just look at all the effort you put into writing this question—a lot more than most people would. So clearly it's not that you "can't do" things, or that you "don't care" about them. You're just choosing to put your effort into some things and not others.

Life's about choices. If none of us ever had to make choices, there wouldn't be any point. Our ability to choose is where life's meaning comes from.

Some stuff's harder than other stuff—but it's usually the stuff that's most worth doing, and of the most value. For example, if everyone could play a musical instrument, speak other languages, or demonstrate any other advanced skills without bothering to learn them, what would be special about those things? Not much.

If you're looking for some kind of secret, I'm afraid you'll be disappointed. We can all choose to be passive or active, lazy or hardworking, timid or brave—and the way our lives take shape is a result of those choices. That's just how it works.

Frankly, I think that if you put half as much energy into most things as you did on this question, you could do pretty well. :?) Cheers, Ander

P.S.: If you REALLY want to change your viewpoint and start appreciating your life more, try volunteering to help people who aren't as fortunate as you. Believe me, they're out there, and you could make a big difference. It's a great way to stop obsessing over your own problems. It's also hard to take your life for granted when you see people who'd give anything to have what you have.

[Brett D]

- I never answered her question but one person said they were 15 and wanted to write their first resume
- and a person gave them a good answer - - - the perfect classic resume
- I got three jobs were they said my resume was the best - if I were her I would focus on listing the things she could do - - - ( like mowing the lawn ) - - - to find some one that likes her because of similar interests
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well in your case you should write a list of all the things you did no matter how small - number them 1 2 3 etc

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then say =========I can do anything and everything I want to - if I want to I can do anything
in the past I have done 1
I can do anything and everything I want to - if I want to I can do anything
in the past I have done 2
I can ado anytjhing and everything I want to - if I want to I can do anything
in the past I have done 3
I can do anything and everything want to - if I want to I can do anything

I believe the problem is with your self talk - - - please don't get mad at me - - - but I think you suffer because you did something and you showed it off and wanted some one to say THAT IS NEAT THAT IS GREAT - - but instead they said it was crap - - -
- so now you feel if you don't do nothing no one can put you down
- - everyone gets that first put down - - but most people get over it
- I think you never got over it - - even if I am wrong about that - - you have to fix and address your self talk

- if you got good self talk you can be super successful

- it would take you a long time to find it but one success guru said your self talk goes to your brain ( subconscious which is like a computer )

- if your self talk goes why am I so stupid - your subconscious computer will give you a thousand excuses why you are stupid and make up another thousand
- if your self talk goes why am I so fat - your subconscious computer will give you a thousand exccuses why you are fat and make up some more

= = = = so as well as repeating the affirmation I gave you you have to address and fix your self talk

- just like a computer - - only ask positive questions

- ask things like - - - how can I become more motivated
how can I get more excited about doing something
what sort of questions can I ask my mind that would lead me to fixing this

[A F]

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