girl problems..please help?

[Jake]

Girl problems..please help?
Let me start from the very beginning.
So there was this girl that I liked the beginning of the school year. I've known her for about 3 years, but I never considered her as a romantic venture. Ok fine, somehow she just became really attractive and fun to be around and she was always the quiet type. Now she's more outgoing. She used to flirt with me by messing up my hair. I only thought of it as a friendly thing before. But i guess inside i liked it. So i started flirting with her. She was the first girl i actually tried to make a move on. I was not smooth at all and i was more of friendly than flirty. I think she still thought of me as a friend. Then i asked her to homecoming directly. I was hesitant because i overheard that she didn't really want to go. But my friend told me if someone asked her then she would go. I asked her a second time with flowers and chocolate to make it public and official. so we went to homecoming and it was awkward but it was a lot of fun. That night we hung out at this guys house and slowly and eventually we held hands and cuddled. So while i took her home i held her hand the whole time but the drive was quiet and romantic. i admitted that i like her and then i kissed her on the lips. She said it was her first and it was also my first. She said she liked me too. After the whole homecoming, things started to get complicated. I initiated friendly text conversations with her a couple weeks after but it felt like she wasn't enjoying conversations with me. And it takes her a long time to text me back. i don't know but things started to fall apart. I asked her out to see a movie with me twice and it took me a lot of courage but she rejected by saying she has work which i understand but she's talking like she doesnt like me. And she's always with her friends and i always feel awkward with them because i can't relate. I admit that i look at her facebook/twitter account on a daily basis and i feel bad. Also at that time i just started a twitter and saw that she was really active on it. She doesn't do anything on facebook. So i told her we need to talk. So we went to starbucks and we talked about our relationship. She finally admitted that there was this guy that she talks to ever since freshman and he moved to Texas. She said they talk on the phone at night and he found out i took her to homecoming. So he decided to have a girlfriend i guess for revenge. She said that before he left they promised that they loved each other and they won't date other people unless they say i don't love you anymore. So i became sad and just started spilling out personal family problems. She took it well and was a real friend but i had mixed feelings. I didn't want to talk to her anymore because i was so emotionally distressed. I was just really sad. I had a feeling that this was possible but i wanted to dismissed it. I never talked to her after. A couple weeks later i texted her and told her how i feel. I told her i wanted to be friends still. I asked her why she didn't tell me this and she told me she didn't want to hurt me. She also told me that the guy helped her from suicide. I just told her i was glad that we could still be friends and talk to each other, but we never talked. Now i was really mad at her for many reasons. But i still really liked her and i think i told her i love her in one of my texts before all this. But now we don't even talk anymore. we don't even make eye contact. We just notice each other's presence. I looked up this guy and he liked almost every picture of her stuff and herself in instagram and same for her. Also now he split with what i think was a revenge girlfriend although it looked like they had a lot in common. The thing is now we don't talk anymore and i still feel angry. i realized that even though we dont have a lot in common, we connected and i have very strong feelings about her and i feel she has strong feelings for me. I really love her. what do i do? I really want to get her back and i will do all i can. That guy is all the way in texas and she's here with me. Also, now my other friend is starting to make a move on her. Also I had self esteem issues that ive been overcoming and now i feel more confident that i can't embarass myself anymore. I can't let things just end like that unless she tells me straight to stop. please help me. and fuch all the haters. also i can't be just friends with her, i know its more than that. If we decide to do nothing then we can't be friends.

[Greeneyes16]

okay so i think you should just text her. nothing too special but just to let her know you still remember and care. ask her questions about whats going on in her life things like that. i know that i would want that kind of thing in a relationship.

[JaeTa]

Ok... you might not like this but I'm talking from experience. I know it's hard but I think you should stop talking to this girl. I'm the kind of person who stays friends with a person after breaking up, but it seems like you won't be able to get over her if you don't stop trying to talk to her. And I say "trying" because it seems that you don't talk, but you want to. So, stop. The fact that she didn't tell you that she had a thing for another guy before shows that she was pleased that you liked her, but then she stopped talking to you, so it means she really likes this guy in Texas, so much that she doesn't want to have anything to do with you, even though she let you have her first kiss. And I know, it seems unfair that she seems to like you and she's closer to you than this other guy, but hey, she chose the other guy, so let it go. You deserve someone chooses you for you, not because you are closer or because they can't be with the person they really like. You said you have self esteem problems but are overcoming them, so you have to want better for yourself. I know it hurts when someone you like doesn't like you back, but because it hurts you have to get over them, so it won't hurt anymore. If you keep trying when it's obvious things won't change, it will just hurt more. Especially because from what you say, they seem to like each other and they are showing it publicly. So, stop talking to her, stop checking her status, actually, ignore her. Focus on your own things and distract yourself until you feel better.
Good luck