My parents think I'm a loner!?!?

[ecarg]

My parents are always asking my I'd I want to go out with friends or go do anything but I just don't want to. I prefer to stay at home. It's not that I don't have any fiendsI just like my alone time. I see all my friends everyday at school and thats good enough for me! I dont mind sometimes going to starbucks after school sometimes. But my weekend is my me time. Basically i dont go out of my way to hang out with people. My moms always on twitter and instagram showing me all these girls who party and hang out with big groups on the weekends. She's always telling me I need to be more like them. But I'm perfectly fine just the way I am. I guess she just always makes me feel bad that I am the way I am. She was like the most popular person in her highschool and she wants me to be just like her. But I'm not and ive tried to tell her that but she won't listen. I just don't know what to do anymore. Should I start going out just to make her happy?
Also bonus question: how can I get more guy friends? I mean there are the guys I talk to in class but how do we become friends outside of class and stuff? They always go off and talk to their other girl friends and it just makes me feel unimportant.

[Eugene]

If you were my kid I be excited do you go put when in college

[Michael Goodman]

Ignore them loners well ur not a loner but the always end up doing something great in life look at Steve jobs

[Liv]

Just keep trying to talk to her.. There's nothing much more you can do... Maybe send her a tweet haha or a text or email or something. As for the guy friends... Just talk to them more... Don't seem creepy or anything though... Try saying something funny here and there and see if they talk to you more.

[♥Krysable♥]

If you don't feel like going out, don't go. Tell your mom (without an attitude) that that's just not your thing. I can appreciate my 'me time' and you should be allowed to enjoy yours. As for the guys just talk to them and be confident. Guys are really not that complicated.

[TheQueen]

Don't do anything you don't want to. Sit down your mom and tell it to her straight. Say, "Mom. I'm sorry to disappoint you, and I don't want to seem ungrateful for you watching out for me. But this is me. I am not the partying type of girl like you were. I don't want to be the most popular. I prefer the quiet kind of life. I have friends, I just like time to myself. This is me."

lol, a little Demi Lovato, isn't it? But still.

[H]

Tell your mother that you're you...you're not other people. Tell them just what you said here in your post. You have friends, but you prefer your own company.

There's nothing wrong with that.

Besides, your mother needs to get away from twitter and instagram and any other social networks. It's like reality tv....it's not real.

My father made similar comments about me. But, I preferred to be on my own. I wish I did have more friends but I couldn't find any I could relate to. I was raised around adults and rarely anyone my own age so I was interested in things that kids didn't even know about. It all worked out in the end.

So, how far did your mom's popularity get her? Popularity is a joke, It only exists in high school as a way to separate people, to classify others as being "better" than the average kid. When you think about it, it's cruel. Being popular doesn't get you better friends, a better job or a better life.

Don't do ANYTHING just to make someone happy. It's not worth it.

Why do you need some guy to make you feel important? Sounds like your self esteem is lacking.

Just talk to guys like you would anyone else. Be kind. Volunteer. Get involved in your community. Talk to people you come in contact with...and just be yourself. There's no trick to it.

Talk to a school counselor or therapist about your self esteem.

[john]

OK well first of all I don't want you to think you're weird or anything just because you don't go out! There's plenty of people that don't do that because they enjoy just relaxing and having time to themselves -- it's completely normal and you definitely shouldn't change it just so your parents don't think you're unpopular at school. They'll still love you; it's not REALLY going to change anything.

As for the boy thing, well really the best solution you have is just to TALK to them. Start talking to people more and eventually they'll inevitably be more comfortable around you, which then leads to the two of you becoming a lot more closer. If you're shy and don't have the confidence to talk to people you don't normally talk to then I suppose you could look it up or ask in another question, however from previous experience I've learned that the best way to overcome this is just to do it! Think about it this way, if a boy were to come and talk to you, then you wouldn't think they're weird would you? It's the exact same with them. If you talk to them whenever you're near them or sit beside them in class then they're not going to think you're weird or anything!

[Pink Glasses]

Tell her to stop comparing you! As for guy friends, it has always come naturally for me which is weird because I actually don't have "friends", i just know friendly people. I always have that one good guy friend. If a guy talks to you try continuing the conversation. Something you NEED to know is that guys love a girl who can make them laugh. Don'y make stupid knock knock jokes but maybe be a little clumsy (not too fake though) or maybe play a little dumb (not too much). Be outgoing but not crazy. Have conversations in which you ask questions. Not too much because you don't want to seem like a stalker. Related to the subject questions: If he talks about how he plays a sport, ask what position it is and if its not obvious such as "quarterback" ask what it means and what he does. Don't ask him his favorite color or anything stupid. Good luck!