Why is this happening to me?

[Stacy K]

I don't know what's going on in my life, but the pattern seems to be that I get to know new people easily, and I form some interesting friendships, but as soon as I form a close friendship with someone, they fall out of my life. Some literally disappear and stop answering their phone, others go through some kind of unfortunate or important event that creates the distance, and I can never communicate with some others because their schedules are completely opposite of mine and every time I call they're busy. Anyways, I am kinda FLABBERGASTED about all that, starting to think that maybe I am bringing people bad luck or something? Its not about my personality because its not like I get into a fight with or distance myself from everyone; things just keep happening and friends keep disappearing. Right now I am just worried about not being able to reach some of them, and confused why some others stopped talking to me altogether without giving a reason. I tried apologizing to people who seemed like they COULD MAYBE be upset with me (I won't even know for what reason because they won't tell me anything); but its really hard to even apologize for an unknown reason, and then sit and try to think hard of what could it be because it is completely not obvious; the last talk I remember having with that person was normal and mutually respectful, so I don't know what could've happened since then- and that is just an example I gave. Right now I'm feeling very lonely and betrayed by everyone, and all I want to know is WHY- am I cursed or something? If I at least knew the reason(s), I could deal with them, especially if it was something about my personality or actions; but I have NO IDEA and that's the hardest thing.

[Melanie B]

I think it's difficult for a lot of people these days to form anything other than casual relationships with those around them. When someone becomes too high maintenance or doesn't provide whatever they may want, they think nothing of "unfriending" them. I'm sure a lot of it has to do with social media and other technological advances that cater to attention seekers.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that it probably doesn't have anything to do with you. Most people are takers. The few who are actually givers tend to frequently get their feelings trampled on by takers. I'm assuming you're probably a giver, primarily because if you weren't, you'd be far more concerned about yourself than the feelings of others. That written, if there's anything wrong with you, it's simply that you aren't more greedy, self-absorbed and callous.