Noyone likes me and I'm sick of it...? Help?!?

[Creveny]

I'm a 15 year old girl and I hate my life. My family does not like me. I live with my older brothers (ages 21, 20) and my small brother whose 12. My older brother (whose 21) always hurts my feelings.. he makes me feel bad. I do a mistake such as forget to wash his plate, he yells at me and tells me I'm stupid. I'm not stupid, i get all A's at school. He ignores me when i talk to him and i get sad. My younger brother (whose 12) argues with me alot and usually takes some stuff from my room and i sometimes get mad.. but if i tell my parents there's no difference.. i'll still be treated the same way. When he argues with me, I stay quite and i know that if i argue with him.. everything will just be worse. So why should i even bother to argue? All my brothers go to the library, store, etc.. without me! They don't even tell me they went. When they come back from Walmart, Target, (any store) I have to arrange the things in the fridge etc.. They say [my name] come and arrange the stuff we got. I'm not their maid.. I'm sick of it.. I've started living with them for 1 month and i feel bad. My 21 year old brother grounds me when i argue with him which only happens like once a week. I stay in my room, mostly all day.. I just listen to songs sometimes to make me feel better I went to a new school this month and nobody really likes me.. I'm a nice, sportive, and outgoing girl.. I just don't get why people hate me. I met this girl at my school and she's kinda nice, i guess i have 1 friend. People laugh at me, about everything i do! In school, my chocolate milk fell on the ground.. noyone helped me just these mean girls were just laughing at me.. I rolled my eyes and cleaned everything up. What's even more stupid is that she told all her friends about that wtf? In my old school, I had about 5 or 6 friends and they were great, also since i use to live with my parents.. i use to like being there & having fun. My brothers use to never treat me like that, probably because my parents aren't in the house but even if they were they really wouldn't care... they would just tell them to stop bugging me, etc. but I have been sad for a couple of days because of how people (usually my brothers) treat me and how they think of me. I wish someone knows how i feel I wish I had at least a friend that likes me for who i am. I don't like feeling this way about myself. I'm actually a strong person and I'm not sensitive but since this has been happening for a month.. i guess i am sad for a while now.. I just can't take it anymore. Please help me? What should i do?

I'm so sorry this is long.
Thanks.
@Beehan: I have to stay with my brothers, my family lives far.. we live in the U.S but my parents live far away (20 hour trip) its really far ( so yeah living with them is an option. I'll also try my best to make more friends.

[Andy]

Try playing a sport

[Whitni Paige]

awww sweetie that sux...and im sorry. It sounds like the biggest issue is the fact that you're living with your brothers and not your parents. It may have seemed like a good idea at first, but they're basically making you "earn" your keep. and they're young guys so they arent mature enough to want to spend time with their 15 yr old sister. They've got "better" things to do. So unless you can really have a heart to heart with them about how you feel...it sounds like home with your parents would be the best place for you. Keep being outgoing at school...dont let others see that anything bothers you...fake it to you make it honey, always smile and walk with your head up so they can see your confidence..you'll make more friends. Do the same with your brothers...they're feeding off the fact that their upsetting you too. So act like its all good and see if things get better. Please hang in there hun. You can do it

[Beyhan Ibici]

It's hard to answer your question without knowing more about your situation. Why are you now living with your brothers instead of your parents? Is living with them again still an option?

You said you had friends where you used to live. Is there any way of seeing them still? You can hopefully at least stay in contact with them through social media or email. Even a letter now and then is nice. I have changed schools and lost contact with old friends before and I know it is challenging to stay in touch when you no longer have the same experiences, but it might make the transition more bearable and help you feel more comfortable talking to new people. You can ask them if they know anyone at your new school. That would be a starting point. Another idea for making friends at your new school - wait for a group project to come along and suggest the group meet outside of school to work on it. I have met people that way and it leads to email or numbers being exchanged. Since academics seems to be a strong point for you, I am sure your best side will come out in an academic social situation and your classmates/group/partner will see that. You also mentioned that you were sportive. Join a team! Then you have found a niche and something to do at school that will keep you out of the house more and that if your brothers say you shouldn't waste time on you can say that colleges and even jobs look at your extracurriculars and if you win any awards with that, you can add that to any resume and application.

My other suggestion regarding your family is to utilize your school teachers/counselors/advisers for help. They can see your academic standing and will not write you off. I would also lean heavily on your academics. Don't let them slide and focus on school so that you can get a scholarship and move out. I am also in a family situation I don't like and have been advised to just focus on facilitating my moving out. I know it seems early, but think about what you would like to do career wise. I can tell you from experience that it is easier to qualify for scholarships when you know what you want to study and having a job or extracurriculars that are relevant is very useful. I would also then find a teacher in a related field who you can talk to about their career. Tell them you are interested in a similar path and would be interested in meeting with them regularly to learn about what they did or what led them to deciding that they wanted to teach. They will enjoy sharing their experiences and it will give you someone to contact and maybe feel comfortable with sharing personal problems with as well as someone to use as a reference, both personal and academic, for schools and jobs you apply to.

Last thing I would recommend is finding a volunteer job so that when you turn 16 you can get a job more easily (unless you are able to get one at 15, it varies by state I think). Having a job will give you money so you feel more independent and will be out of the house more. This is what I did and I can say that it helped a lot and also opened me up to better jobs later. With this I will say two things - the length of time you work matters. Pick a place where you can see yourself working for your high-school years, not just to get a job. Applying to permanent positions now, everyone has been impressed by my holding two jobs (one summer only) for multiple years. The second thing is please do not do more than you can handle. You don't want to let your grades slip as a result and lose the benefits of my previous paragraphs just to hold a job.

I also apologize for this being so long, but I do hope that I help. I know that a lot of it sounds textbook, but I do know from experience that these will help. I'd like to hear how everything goes with your situation.

New year, new start! Good luck.