Can I please have your advice on this? Please.?

[Ronnie]

If your own family calls you a scumbag, piece of shit, loser, and embarrassment what would you do? How would you handle it? I"m old enough to move out but its hard because I'm not financial stable to move out on my own and get an apartment right now. Its always hard for me to concentrate with school and work at the same time. I'm not super smart so I have to try extra hard at school. I really do try my best. My brother recently just called me a loser because he goes to a university and is almost done with school and is on the deans list.Then again my brother also kissing my fathers butt and gets everything he wants. He says he works for what he has which I agree but no way could he afford on his own 2 cars and a bike. He works part time for my father and gets paid under the table only $100 a week so my dad buys him everything. I've always been the one to go out and get a job and buy things on my own. Never do I ask my parents for any money. It makes me mad because I really do work hard and no one thinks I do. My brothers both have everything handed down to them. My younger brother gets an allowance of 50 bucks a week and does nothing but play video games. He doesn't do any chores and does a okay job at school. My older brother is going to have my fathers business which is good for him but try worker from the bottom up. Must be nice when everything is given to you. I'm working towards being a nurse but have a ways to go. I'm taking my prerequisites right now. I'm just tried of everyone in my family calling me a piece of shit all the time. It makes me feel worthless and I wish I had never been born. I even feel suicidal sometimes. No, I don't have any friends or anyone in my family that I can speak with about this matter. I feel alone and hopeless. Can I please have some advice? How would you handle it? And if you were to move out would you still be in contact with your family? My family has abused me mentally, physically, and emotionally over the years. I'm drained.

[good2go122]

Get a job and move out.If you don't,You have proved them right in the way that they treat you and what say about you.

[Sam]

First thing you should do is find someone you can talk too! it may be your professor, and even a janitor at your school. Just someone you feel you are comfortable with. Go to a bar and meet a nice girl/guy and spend time with other people. If you want to know how to pickup girls/guys go to a youtube channel called SIMPLEPICKUP. Also talk to your parents and tell them how you feel and how it hurts you and how you are really a hard worker. Suicide is the last thing that should come to your mind.

[tygerbea]

First of all, I'm sorry that you're in that situation. Try to remember that abuse is never the victim's fault; it's always a choice that the abuser has made (namely, to abuse you). If your suicidal thoughts are serious call the suicide hotline (1-800-273-8255) or 911. Take those thoughts and your problems seriously.

Could you move in with a friend or another family member temporarily? Could you search for a roommate on Craigslist, or something similar? I think it's a good idea for you to get away from these people for a while.

If there is nothing you can do to get out, you may want to consider continuing to work hard and possibly kissing up to your father as well. If this brings on further abuse, ignore it, walk away, or deflect it. Say, "Huh, that's interesting," and change the subject. Keep an eye open for other places to live, scholarships, internships, part-time jobs, etc.

Once you're feeling a little more stable you should seek out a therapist or another kind of mental health professional to deal with the stress and emotional scars of your family's abuse. If you have a family physician, they will most likely be able to recommend one. You can also ask your friends for recommendations.

As for keeping in touch with your family, just think about the pros and cons. Do you think that proving to them that you can support yourself will stop their hate? Or will they just find more flaws to attack you for? Is it worth it to keep on subjecting yourself to that? It sounds like they're pretty determined to nag you and you know what, if what they say is hurtful then you definitely have every right to cut them out of your life. Delete and block them from your email, phone, and all social media sites you're on. Then give yourself a little love. You've earned it.

The site I put as a source is a small team of people who answer emails from other people who are in situations like yours. If you want more comprehensive and thorough help, search through their website--sadly, it's pretty easy to come across someone else who's been through what you're dealing with.

I really hope this helps. Best of luck.

[j three times]

Be polite And pleasant. Keep your head down and work. Be nice and save $$. Then move out if you have to.