who is the boss in your marriage and relationship?

[Fearlessisland777]

Do you think men are the boss in most relationships OR women ?

[Kathy]

We share that title. Sometimes he calls the shots, sometimes I do. We've been married a long time and it works because we both realize we are equals.

[Chris]

My ''boss'' is at the work place.
In my marriage, we both have our strenghts and weaknesses....there's no competition.

[Jayme]

Wtf? NOBODY is the boss in a true marriage! They r a TEAM!

[Patricia]

I t hink it's a good idea to be equal partners. And if you aren't that great with finances, for example, it's ok to ask your partner to be in charge of this. I think important decisions need to be made mutually.

[David]

me.

[Jason]

I believe a marriage should have no boss. The couple should work together on every aspect and make decisions together.

[Respectedstreet685]

We share decision making.

[The Mrs.]

In our marriage, that person is me. That just means that I'm the one who makes important decisions and plans for our future, etc. My husband just naturally looks at me to do that since I've always been the one with that ability. That doesn't mean that he doesn't get to make choices, it just means that he hates doing so most of the time (and honestly, he's really not that good at it XP I have never met someone who was worse at making plans!). But I always base my decisions on what would make us BOTH the happiest and that he agrees with, so it's not a domineering type of thing.
Among the married and long term couples that we know well, I would say that the woman is only the boss in one other relationship, while I know 4 couples in which the man or the male-identifying person is the boss. There is exactly one couple I know that seems to be entirely equal in their decision making. Adding in my parents' marriage, that brings the number of relationships headed by women to 3 and those headed by men to 4. So, among my social group at least, it seems like it's pretty equal.
And before anyone jumps to any conclusions, I'd like to say that the only relationship in which there is unhappiness because of this arrangement would be that of our friends' marriage in which the wife is the boss, but her husband seems to resent it a bit.
Judging by the media, though, you'd expect that every household in the country was lead by a controlling woman...