I really like my crush, what should I do?

[Alicia]

I'm in 9th grade, I really like this kid, we had 1 class together in 8th grade and he would make me laugh and cheer me up but I didn't realize I liked him. Then he switched classes and I realized how much I missed him but the thing is, I know he liked this other girl, I don't know if he still likes her. I really thought we had something though. Anyway, I pass by him and wave and he waves back, and usually I look at him and wanna smile when he looks at me back, but it's really awkward and my smile isn't very nice. ahha in my opinion. Anyway, he barely goes on social media and answers his phone and such, so I can only see him at school, and we haven't seen each other in a long time so I can't just go up to him and strike a conversation. What should I do?

[James W.]

It seems like you are making dating decisions mainly based upon whether or not you like someone and they like you - this approach to dating, used by most people, usually leads to a broken heart or worse.

My first suggestion is that you forget about this guy unless he’s a hard working man with Godly character. Unfortunately this type of guy is difficult to find – but please don’t settle for less.

My second suggestion is that you put in the time and effort required to become the type of person that God wants you to date (a keeper) before dating anyone else.

"You’ve probably heard the expression “He’s a keeper” or “She’s a keeper”, which means that a person has valuable qualities that a person would want in a boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife.
From a Christian perspective, may I suggest that a keeper is a strong Christian, someone who keeps:
- their Christian faith strong through daily prayer, and regular Bible study/church
attendance
- trusting in Christ alone for their salvation and for their daily needs
- trusting God when the storms of life hit (problems, tragedies, etc.)
- God in mind when making any important decision - In other words, they seek God’s will for their lives.
- trying to obey the two greatest commandments, “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” and “love your neighbor as yourself.” (Mark, chapter 12, verses 28-31)
- trying to grow throughout their life (spiritually, emotionally, relationally, and intellectually)
- trying to display the fruits of the Holy Spirit - love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control
- a group of Christian friends
- trying to control their tongue
- a positive attitude (cheerful, enthusiastic, looks on the bright side of things)
- themselves sexually pure from this day forward
- forgiving others
- in mind how much God loves them regardless of what they have done

If a keeper decides to get married, they are someone who keeps:

- trying to meet the needs of their spouse
- trying to communicate their needs to their spouse in a constructive positive
manner
- trying to treat their spouse with a high level of concern and respect in both words and actions - regardless of what they receive in return from their spouse
- their lifetime commitment to their spouse

In order to become a keeper, first of all, if you’re not already, you need to become a Christian. Please read "More than a Carpenter" by Josh McDowell or “No Argument for God” by John Wilkinson to find out if Christianity is the truth or if it's baloney (Mr. Wilkinson says that some things in Christianity don't make logical sense and require a step of faith.).

If you decide to become a Christian, here are some suggestions of how to go about developing your relationship with God: 1. Get yourself a good Bible that is written for your age group. 2. Read it every other day at the least - start out in John and move to other books that talk about daily living and love - such as Proverbs, 1 Corinthians, etc. 3. Spend time in prayer daily including praising God; thanking God for all of your blessings; confessing your sins of thought, word, and deed; asking God to forgive your sins; asking God for help forgiving other people; asking God for wisdom to make good decisions that are pleasing to Him; asking God for strength to live your life each day the way he wants you to; sharing things with Him that are bothering or worrying you; and praying for other people.

So the first step toward finding the type of person that God wants you to date and possibly marry is for you to take the time to become the type of person that God wants you to date.

The second step is to prepare yourself for dating and marriage by reading some good books from a Christian perspective about dating and marriage. The appendixes of Straight Talk About Dating and Straight Talk About Teen Dating contain a list of highly recommended books.

After the second step has been accomplished, the next step is to participate in as many activities as possible with other people who are strong Christians. Sunday School class, church youth group or young adult group meetings and activities, church events, activities of a Christian organization, service projects, mission trips, Bible studies, etc., can all be great opportunities to get to know the type of people that God wants you to date without actually dating.

It’s not going to be easy, but patience, perseverance, prayer, and participation in activities with other strong Christians will make it more likely that you will eventually find a person with whom you can have a lifelong loving Christian marriage."

(Please remember that you want a 40, 50, or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)

Hope this helps!

[laur]

The thing is you have to break out of your shell and talk to him. Its the only way. Trust me been there done that just have a moment of reckless abandon and go up and start up a conversation. Trust me it will work. Good luck!

[Addisson May]

The next time there's a dance at school, dress your best and go up to him and ask for a slow dance. He should respond, hopefully

[Chris]

ask him out!

[Eminem Demii]

Same problem here. Except you are 1 year older.And some people say my crush hates me ?
And yes, you can.Jut go up and start talking to him.It might be weird at first but you will thank me for telling you! Just talk to him and be comfortable or else the healthy friendship and boyfriend/girlfriend will not work out so good . :/

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[MewMew]

ZOMG....Im in a similar situation xD though this time I'm the guy but in your position u know? xD kinda like swapped genders/places? anyways lol what I did was I text her sometimes and have little convos and then at school what I did yesterday was that I caught her as she was walking to class, 1st time we saw each other since last year, and we talked a bit and caught up (I could barely contain my squeals coz I was ready to burst ^.^ eeee!!) so ya I think you should just see if you can catch him when he walks to classes between periods and talk to him :3 as for the gal that you think he likes I say don't worry about it haha, I don't even know who my crush likes but idc lol I just like spending time wif her and u shud just focus on spending time with him too! coz when they feel you're happy, they're gonna be happy ^.^ good luck!! oh! one more thing! also helps if you have a mutual friend it's like the universe listened to me when I finally had a mutual friend wif mine! mutual friends are like DIAMONDS lol idk xD buenas suerte!!!