is she a good friend or bad friend ?

[john]

what kind of friend would you call this? real or fake? Okay I have this friend I made in college. So every time I would ask her to hang out withme and my sister, she'd always say "Yes"I love hanging out with you girls,and say good things aboutus,butit never happens,instead she goes to hang out with other friends. and she NEVER invites us NO WHERE, but she always say she wanna hang out withus.So a few weeks ago, I asked her to call me cause I needed advice, so she did,& she gave it to me. Then she ask if I wanted to go to breakfast with her,and btw (none of her other friends were around,itwas when everyone was prettymuchgone) So we chatted, and she told me we'd hang out overbreak,so then me andmysisterasked her if she wanted to watch movies withus andshe said she would.So she asked us to help her pack, andwe did, then she shut herlaptopandsaid she wouldn't be able to watch the movie cause she hadtoleave. She was also telling me how one of her roomates was judgemental,then she hung around her,then she was telling me how her bestfriend gets on her nerves, andhow she wish herbestfriend would move out the room. And I tweeted something on twitter,and she mentioned me saying "true that sister"should I even respond to that,tellherhow me andmysisterfeel? So then I told her I needed to tell her something, she told me to text her, then she asked me if everything was okay. So I told her I was moving colleges, and she said "Nowhy? , then I ask her if she wantedme tomove,then she said no, cause mycollege is a good school,so then I told her why I was moving, and she said she think colleges in Texas would be a good college. So after that I asked what was she doing for her birthday,and she said she didn't know, then I asked her if she was hanging out with people, andshesaid probably. so I went weeks without talking to her, andshe texted me saying she misses us andseeing how mybreak was going, and of course I responded. then like a few days later, I asked her how hers was going, then she responded, then I asked her again if she wanted to hang out with me and my sister,and she didn't respond, and that was like a week ago, and I haven't talked to her since. What kinda friend would you call this? I really need help, then we seen her at the bible study, and she was trying to be friendly, and me and my sister were kinda looking at her like she was weird.. So then I tweeted something on twitter, and Im guessing she thought it was about her, and she unfollowed me.. Is she or was she a true friend? So a couple days.later she texted me and ask why I acted the way I did, and I told her I didn't feel she was honest enough, and I felt that she used me. I told her exactly how I felt, like when she didn't text back, and she said she swear she didn't get any of those messages and she apologize d, and said she cares about me her friends, and she was.working 50 hours a week, and she even blamed herself. But now she's being way nicer, and keeping her word...what kind.of friends would you call this? Oh and she said she'd never use me..and I know she probably didn't get my messages cause my phone is crappy.. she basically said she Cares about me and want to be my friend

[Carrie]

Hey, this is just my opinion mind u but it sounds like shes what I like to refer to as a"convenient friend". Basically thats someone that gets so wrapped up in there own lives that they forget that the world revolves around everyone not just them. They will come around when its convenient for them, use your help, money,and anything else they can then forget about you. Unfortunately there r quite alot of those people in this world. If u confront them they will usually tell u that they arent like that and they r sorry. Some people just dont realize they r doing it.some are just raised tothink that the world revolves around them. Great if she changed .. if not then u just have to decide how much more time u want to waste trying to remind her that shes ur friend. Good luck! Maybe if ureally want here friendship try not answering her a few times. She might realize how u feel. Best wishes!