how to find a guy to join a threesome?

[colossalpencil526]

so, I told my gf that my fantasy is to have a threesome with another guy. I have always wondered what it would be like to have sex with a guy. she was really accepting of it and said it is totally natural for a guy to be bi curious. so, how do I go about finding a guy to join us in a threesome - really join me, I guess, as she is more into seeing me with the other guy.

[Cory Y]

wow....honestly man........i happen to think a guy looks good here and there, but never have i thought about having another guy....

But if you know and gay friends, im sure theyd be all for it....i know my friend Alex would lol.

Try a gay club though.

[dancing_smurf]

I have had a few mfm threesomes with my wife but they have been with males who were straight. Due to the risk of HIV / AIDs and syphilis that is common from male on male contact along with the overall risk of STDs from inviting another male you may find that you have to do some searching for a bi-curious / bisexual male.

Why does the search take longer than if you were looking for a straight male? First you are looking for a specific male. Generally speaking 0.5% - 1% of males are either bisexual or gay. This rate is at least 1/2 - 1/4 the rate for women. Since this type of practice carries an increase risk for HIV / AIDs and syphilis, in particular, male on male contact in the threesome community is discouraged in order to keep the risk minimum. It does not mean you will not find someone. Instead it means you are going to have to look before finding someone. Finally many males proclaim to be 'bi-curious' in their ads. The reality is many of them are either straight males or males that are truly bisexual. I am not completely sure for the reason for this but believe it is done to increase their chance of being selected by a couple. For you, the question becomes for you is how do find that other male?

My feeling would be the Internet and avoid the swingers club? Why? To begin with you can post an ad to let people know the type of male you are wanting and can do some initial contact thereby being able to control the speed at which you make a decision. Second male on male contact at swingers club tends to be discouraged and it something you do not see on a regular basis. This means your chances of finding a male at a club may be less than if you used the Internet.

So where do you look on the Internet. Many posters on Yahoo! Answers proclaim social networking sites. I tend to believe these people have not had threesome experience and if they did most likely they would not make that recommendation. The best places to look are bisexual, gay, dating, and swinging sites as they are quite focused on this type of activity.

Once you have found a site to the join you will need to create an ad to let other members know the type of person you are wanting. It is important to be honest, clear, and specific. If you are vague and non-committal in your ad you will find that you will receive allot of replies that are no use to you and you are chasing replies that lead nowhere.

With that said as you go through this process it is important to remember that you continue to communicate with your girlfriend about the threesome and begin to establish boundaries. Also it is important to practice safe sex and to ensure you use condoms in order to minimize the risk of STDs due to the fact the last think you want is a permanent reminder of your threesome. In any event, I wish you the best on your journey.