My ex might be a dangerous stalker? Plz read!?

[justme]

We broke up almost two months ago because he was cheating. When I found out and told the other woman about me, he started threatening to kill me and my family. He has continued to pursue me since then even though I keep telling him off. I did ignore him at first but he kept calling.

The other day someone made several fake ads on Craigs List and posted my cell number. People started calling and texting my phone nonstop. I had to change my number. I'm pretty sure it must be my ex because I'm not having problems with anyone else. Before that he also kept accusing me of emailing him that I'm pregnant, but it turned out to be a fake email that was almost exactly like mine.

Why is he doing this? Is he dangerous? He was abusive during our r/ship. He hit me sometimes and told me he would stalk me if we broke up and that he owns me, and that I'll never get away from him. He has been in jail for domestic violence before. Should I be afraid for my life?

[Delores Sanbourne]

Ok, so you got with someone who had a record for domestic violence and he turned out to be a crazy stalker- big surprise. If you're concerned for your safety, get a restraining order. And learn the lessons.

[Hannah]

Yeah, you should be afraid. Don't worry, you can ask the police for a restraining order. xx good luck love.

[Noor]

What is wrong with you? You post the same thing ten times a day when you already know the answer. Yes he is dangerous and it doesn't matter how he feels or what he is thinking. It doesn't matter why he is behaving the way he is. You need to cut him out of your life completely. Stop thinking about him, stop answering him or talking to him on the phone or texts. Change your number, remove him from facebook if you have one, avoid places you know he will be, don't allow him to come see you and file a restraining order. You're almost acting as if you like the abuse and stalking by refusing to do something about it and by continuously talking about it. I promise you it will not turn out well if you go back to him or spend time with him. Again cut him out of your life and move on.

[Ariel]

Call the cops

[Simply Me]

Don't be afraid. At least, don't tell yourself that you are afraid. Be calm and confident.

I would call the police. Whenever your life feels threatened, you should contact the police immediately. It's better to be safe than sorry. Especially if he has already been in jail before.
You need to be calm, but you also need to be cautious. You never know when it comes to these situations.

I hope I helped!

[meme I]

ok hes violent with you and has gone to jail because of violence???!!!
call the police and stop thinking bout him cut him out of your life completely.....
Also next time pick someone thats less dangerous!!!!

[Forever]

It is reasonable for you to be concerned, yes. You should take some precautions. Domestic Violence sometimes ends in death or serious injury because many women felt that their spouse or partner would never actually follow through, or they thought stalking was less serious than physical harm so they ignored it. The longer this behavior is ignored, the longer he can continue with it and the more obsessed and dangerous he may become. Even if he finds another partner, he may still want to punish you because, in his mind, that is what he is doing. He is punishing you for defying him.

1. Change your telephone numbers, including your cell phone numbers. This limits his ability to contact you by telephone. Also, be very cautious about who you give your number's out to. You don't want to risk anyone passing your number around or giving your number to him.

2. Tell your friends and family what went on during your relationship and why you left him. Tell them the threats he made to you and that you believe he is now stalking you. It is far better for you if people know there is potential trouble. This way, if he acts out his aggression, there is a better chance someone will figure out there is a problem and contact authorities before you are seriously hurt or worse. It is also a good idea to have a silent notification of trouble with family and friends.

3. Change all of your email accounts. Delete your current ones and create entirely new ones. Also, change the name on your Facebook to a nick name and block him from viewing you. Block him first then change your name to a nickname. This way, he cannot contact you and he cannot create a fake account to stalk you there because he wont know your new Facebook name. Also, anyone who is in your Facebook that is also friends with him should be blocked from viewing your posts, pics and updates. This way he cannot view you through their accounts.

4. Change your address to a post office box so that you do not get threatening mail or packages delivered to your home. Anything suspicious will be caught by postal personnel and reported and/or returned to sender.

5. Buy a self defense whistle. The 120db Electronic Pocket Whistle can be attached to your key ring allowing you to blow it if you need assistance and it is so loud it should startle him, possibly giving you a running head start. The whistle, and others like it, are available all over the web. They range in prices from $5.00 to $20.00.

I would say that anyone who is harassing you and making threats, presently or past tense, is a threat to your health and safety. If he has been incarcerated in the past for DV, he is absolutely a threat. He is doing this because he hates women and believe they are to be submissive to him, allowing him to control every aspect of what they do. You did not submit, you left, taking with you the control he feels he is entitled to. He doesn't love you, he is obsessed with manipulating and controlling you. He is a womanizer, a violent and dangerous person, a classic abuser.

Should you be afraid for your life? I am not saying that he will try to hurt or kill you, I am saying that the potential is there and you should take that seriously.

[freedom fighter]

document everything, go to the police, making police reports, they should assist you in what you need to do for yourself to keep safe and seek legal advise from a lawyer..stalking is a dangerous crime..seek court intervention with a restraining order against him.