I need to become unattached?

[Lizzie Eperjesi]

I am a freshman in college this year and I've been having the time of my life. In the beginning of the semester I met a boy in one of my classes. In my eyes, he is the definition of perfect. We hangout very often and enjoy one another's company. The only problem is I know it will never turn into anything major. Some people tell me that they believe it might seeing how we are towards one another, but I know that it will not. We are too preoccupied doing our own things and it has most likely never even crossed his mind. We do not treat one another like a couple, but we do spend much time together and he often sleeps over. We have never hooked up or anything along those lines but we do enjoy cuddling and watching movies each night. It is just nice having someone to be with. He is also a senior this year and I'm not quite sure how much longer he has at this University. I believe maybe a semester after this upcoming Spring. Altogether, I'm just trying to save myself the heartbreak. I know I'm going to hurt regardless, but I can most likely break away more easily now than later on when it will hurt me even more. I usually try to avoid texting him and looking to see what he is doing on social media sites, but he always seems to know when I am and beats me to it by sending me a message and attempting to hangout. He has never hurt me and I know he cares. I really would just prefer to focus on my school work and save myself the misery. Any tips? I know there are many others in similar situations and I was just curious to see how other people handle things like this. Thank you, I appreciate it!

[Jen M]

Be honest with your feelings, you never know how things will turn out. He seems like a great guy and he cares about your feelings. Hes not pushing you to do things your not ready for. I think that being honest with him and telling him exactly what you put here would help you in the right direction. Dont rule out a relationship just yet

[Katheryn]

If you need to focus on schoolwork, why not study together? By the sound of it he's a great guy and would help you out. I'd hate for you to push him away and avoid a great friendship because you're afraid of getting hurt. Don't rule out a relationship either. College is about more than grades and having a good GPA. Have fun while you're there. If you don't, you're missing a lot.

If you're still unsure, talk to him about it and be honest. He should know that it's nothing he did. Don't start avoiding him or trying to put off hanging out. Be straightforward about it. Good luck!