How come adults don't seem to see the social part of school?

[Tristan]

Mostly all the "grown-ups" always talk about achieving success by going to school and making an effort, but they seem to have no concept of the social aspects of school. When you do work, you come off as a nerd, and no one likes you. There are so many things that teenagers like me worry about that aren't school related. Adults like the teachers and the principals just don't seem to get that school just isn't all work anymore. Can anyone tell me why they think about that?

[Hello]

I agree.
Its either succeed and be teased your whole childhood or fail and be the most popular kid known around!

[hollowsong506]

because they're old enough to know that stuff like that is pointless. "When you do work, you come off as a nerd, and no one likes you." that's total b.s., right there. don't buy in to stupid labels. Do your homework, get good grades, and haul your as* outta there when you've graduated.

[Holly Bump]

i think they think about it because they have been through school and only see the big picture, whether they did good or not. but we see that social things matter, i know that i fall under the category of someone who cares about all that stuff, but once i think about it, i start looking at where ill be right after highschool. what i will do, who i will meet, how much money i will have. then i start to realize that there is so much more than just fitting in with these small years of school. you just have to find the good people, and be true to them, thats really all that matters. i only have 4 years left in this what seems to be forever lasting school, i think that it is hard to deal with people, but it is all part of our learning in school, thats one of the reasons that schools are in session i believe. i know i sort of droned on, but being a "nerd" just means that you will be the one on top once we're out of school. we will be the bosses of the people who treated us badly


SORRY IT WAS SO LONG ))))))

[toxicdecoy]

Because they have grown older and most adults forget what it was like to be a teenager.. They get caught up in life's travels and think that education is more important than socializing but once you take their social life away, they find out that it's just as important...

[Violentrecess737]

Adults seem to forget everything they experience as a kid, and they think the work is "easier" on us. They forget about school, and all the social stuff, well, when you go to college, or even higher in highschool, people let go of that childish "nerd/popular/jock, etc" mentality, and focus on succeeding.

[Ben]

Well, the older you get the farther away from high school you get and the less it matters. Social life in school is nothing new and has existed as long as public schooling has, bome adults may simply have forgotten what high school was really like or they are at a point in their lives when it seems small, far away and not important in the larger picture of their existence.

That's not to say that social life is not important in high school, because it is: public schools function as socializing agents. You are living it now and that definitely matters for you - right now - but you should also understand that in ten, twenty, forty years you will only remember some things about high school and the social life & drama will only be a distant memory when compared to the entirety of your life - which is precisely what adults are concerned about.

[Tom Servo]

Because adults know that how "cool" you were in school is completely irrelevant to the rest of your life. But bullying can indeed leave a lasting impact on people. I think the fact that children who do well in school are bullied is a sign of a very sick culture that values idiocy and ignorance over education.

[Carolyn]

What about trying to do some of each? Can you, like do your homework for a couple of hours and get out into the social life for a couple of hours too? Maybe you could do the work when no kids will see you doing it, if your peers have a problem with your doing the work being nerdy. Grown ups are mostly worried about your future and forget there's more to life at your age than just work all the time since its about all there is so much of the adult's life! Also there's the news media that constantly scares adults that American schools aren't teaching kids as well as foreign schools. So adults get it in their heads they have to work you more, since God forbid we aren't the BEST in everything! By adulthood when you work you come off as being All That and we forget its different for kids. Plus the kid who worked might end up being the most successful adult, and the adults want that to be their kid and they forget about how important the social part is for you. And the party ones grow up and wonder later in life how much better they would have been doing as adults if they didn't worry about the social stuff and worked harder on their school work.

And then, school is the place to DO the work. Like we get stuck doing at work. It is all work. Then you get the GOOD part, a time like weekends and summer vacation, (if your area has that!), and you get to be free of the "making an effort" and working and get to LIVE for a while! All that no school stuff can be dealt with then and hopefully enjoyed more than worried about!

Good luck getting the work done and keeping it a secret from the other kids so you get to stay cool with them and get a good future in life!