How do I break up with someone in a kind way?

[Throw]

We've only been dating a few weeks, but due to our situations, I tend to struggle trying to keep up with him and when I do see him, I don't really enjoy being there all that much because our personalities clash.
I know I can't fully avoid making him sad, but I'd like to know how to soften it.

Also, I don't want to tell him by text/IM, but on the other hand telling him in person would mean I'd have to get a ride to his house, tell him, and leave quickly (which is kind of strange in my parent's eyes) or get him to come over, break up with him, and then awkwardly hope that he leaves quickly.
How should I do this in a mature and kind way?

[anonymous]

theres no such thing, just text them

[Victoria]

You can't really let him down easy but just try and be nice. Try and do it someplace that is kind of private but kind of public. Like a bookstore or a coffee shop. Places where you can't make a scene but you know you can feel safe in case something happens. Good luck. Just let him down easy, say you didn't see it working out and you didn't want to keep it going if you didn't see it working out. Good luck, prepare for tears, or just sad looks.

[Shelby]

Best thing is probably to meet him some where on a mutual grounds like store, restaurant, cafe, park. and just tell him that your not happy anymore and you are different but would like to remain friends if possible. ( or not ) its the best way to do it. that's what i didn't with my relationship of 3 years. I knew him from 2 grade and we had a kid together. and i finally just told him i wasn't happy anymore. and we are nice to each other and still are friends.

[captainevilevi]

I understand your frustration been in a few relationships that just didn't seem to work out.

You can give him the silent treatment:
Don't ask to hang out, say you're not feeling good when he asks and avoid as much contact as possible. After a week or two he will be very annoyed by it and feel single already. So, either he'll break up himself or start an argument about it by text messaging. At that point you can text him that if he's going to be pissed about something as tiny as you feeling sick the relationship is clearly not working and that you two were better off being friends in the first place.

This will not hurt him much he will however be slightly pissed off at you but that will fade after a month. He might send you a text next day though apologizing for reacting like that. Just stay to your point and ask him in capslock if he really thinks an apology would completely solve this one.

I don't see another way than using social media or text messaging in your case, a break up in person will play a lot with as well his as your emotions and he'll probably end up crying at your place for another hour.

Best of luck!