I'm very shy and it's ruining my life .... help ?

[Lucky 13 !]

hi guys... so i'm extremely shy and i have no friends... stepping up and beginning a conversation seems so scary to me... how do i overcome this ? i want friends to hang out with cuz tbh living like this sucks but idk what to do :'(
Thanks <3

[shez]

People, surprisingly, are very similar, despite their social backgrounds. Unless people are complete douches or just very grumpy in general, a stranger would be completely fine with holding a small conversation with you, and you might even see the same people approach you again to carry the conversation on which is always great
Just remember, no one will judge you for trying to make friends. If anything they'll understand your social anxiety and be nicer towards you, and even if they aren't kind to you, you shouldn't be sad, if anything you should be happy that you weren't friends with them in the first place
And something really important, don't feel bad if a conversation gets awkward or something, like honestly you'll only be doing yourself harm by thinking lowly of yourself. It'll look more impressive if you keep your head up high and have a smile on your face wherever you go instead of being slumped and long-faced

[Mavihs26]

Im a boy and its same for me i dont have many friends nd sometimes they can be mean and rude i like myself but like i really want friends i know im lucky ive got some even though they can be rude i would like to hang out but there like me they dont like to go even though now im gonna force them nicely you seem really nice if i were you just look around your classes and find someone like you maybe u get same levels anything same interests etc i mean i made my friends like randomly i dont even remember i dont have many but 3-4 of them are ok and i just need to force them to hang out because i know its really annoying and you start to think life is pointless which i still do now search for 1 friend or more try to hang out with them say can i stay with you at lunch yes its hard but just try it i doubt they will say no if they do just leave them and you might get introduced to there friends and there you go your in the group and try to make more friends its hard because i struggle myself but just try to get into like atleast 1 small group. Lots of people come from diffrent backgrounds my life is quite different to other people but we have similarities trust me be confident and belive they will like you and talk to you. I know you must have other problems related to this problem etc i do read this book called The Secret it says it tells you how to live i cant explain it but it will strengthen your mind and make you confident its not a story and it can get boring but i think its a good read to help you with confidence and other stuff it is a good book and awkwardly for me it works at times even if u think Seriously ? but it works so just do it its hard i know but you have to try. Im saying this though at times i cant do it myself but yh u just have to i want more friends but i struggle i doubt ill make anymore but ill think postiive who knows so yh i hope this helps if you want to talk then follow me on twitter @ShivamD26 just tweet saying about yahoo ill follow back we can talk if you want about anything even tv programmes xD i like talking online i feel more comfortable anyway i hope this helps youb good luck please pick me as top answer thank you

[Candy Rose]

Shyness has never prevented me from making tons of friends. People don't care if you are shy as long as you are a decent, hones and respectful human being. What people run away from is dishonesty, envy, aggression, violence, abuse. That is why bullies are unable to make friends.

[squarehope856]

Confidence is attained in small steps. It comes from within but there are ways to encourage it to bring inner peace and deter fear in social situations. Attaining it is much like learning to run fast, however you need to start slowly and methodically and win small battles before you move to larger ones. Just as a child does when first learning to walk by building on experience, you must first rise, then steady yourself, take a step and re-steady. After the process is repeated several times it becomes less mechanical and more natural. If for example you'd like to have more confidence around people, first practice remembering names, then a fact about that person, then focus on someone you both know then finally just focus on that person. As you begin to relate to that person try and let them speak more, and ask questions about them. Even if they ask you nothing about yourself-they'll think you're great! The smile you'll get is the immediate feedback you need that will boost your confidence a notch. Then-repeat this process and you'll be running in no time. It will change your life!