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How do I get this guy to leave me alone?
04-26-2013, 02:31 PM
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How do I get this guy to leave me alone?
He's a nice guy, really nice. He bought me a video game I was dying for and I was very grateful, but I didn't ASK him to buy it, he insisted. So after that, he kept talking to me. It was okay after a while but now it's getting old.
I can't ignore him because he's very sensitive. He'll say "okay...I'll go now...sorry for bothering you," on Facebook. I feel bad because he doesn't have a lot if friends but it's hard, especially when he doesn't even want to meet me because of all of his anxiety issues and such. I hope I don't sound like a bitch, it's just that when I first got to know him and accepted his offer to buy me a video game, I didn't know he was going to be like this. I feel guilty. I don't know. Just help please...

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04-26-2013, 02:32 PM
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Just talk to him a little bit less every day until finally you stop talking at all

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04-26-2013, 02:44 PM
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do the same thing he doea to you then he will think that your dumb
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04-26-2013, 02:58 PM
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Just tell him you don't like him unless you do.... Best to ya!
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04-26-2013, 03:06 PM
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Grow a back bone, and tell him to piss off.
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04-26-2013, 03:10 PM
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Yeah he's shy but ...... Yea know wants a friend but not a GF sorry if I'm not help 😅
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04-26-2013, 03:24 PM
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Just be like I can't keep this upif you want to date ask me out but please stop underestimating yourself don't just back away let's talk and figure our relationship out instead of giving each other writes signals its unappealing
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04-26-2013, 03:29 PM
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Do you want to stop talking to him completely or is he crushing on you and you want to put him in the friendzone?
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04-26-2013, 03:34 PM
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He is NOT a nice guy. This is classic aggression of a sexual nature. He is dangerous. You should quit all ALL communication with him. You owe him nothing. He is not sensitive - he is running a very typical jailhouse type aggression on you. Most people will go for a sort of- in the 70s- before they called it a jailhouse rap. I mean a way of agreeing and smiling and continuing as you describe. There will come a time that he will strike and you could be badly hurt. The sort you are describing is very dangerous. Just stop all communication with him. And, watch your back. You write "...he doesn't even want to meet me..." I hope you don't really believe that.
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04-26-2013, 03:35 PM
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It's like feeling sorry for bed bug..
He needs to go which you already know. If you want to stop talking to him give him back the video game he bought you because that is what he is using as a ransom to keep talking to you . And he knows already that he is creepy that's why he doesn't want to meet you. Honey block him(cold hearted but it's the only obvious hint that will drive the message home for him)
Do not feel sorry for this guy because honey he is not your responsibility and his lack of friends is not your responsibility but his.
So instead of feeling sorry for him do yourself a favour and look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself loudly that you are finally blocking this guy from your facebook and that you deserve a real friend and not a bed bug who brings you worry and discomfort.
If you need a line I have used with a past beg bug of mine who gave me his Wii here it is:
I need to talk to you about something. It is nothing personal against you but I feel that me and you are compatible as friends and it would be selfish of me to keep forcing it (actually fake ) andni don't believe in false friendships so here's your Wii. Thank you for it. ( he will say oh keep it and stuff so he can run around and play the victim to his small cache of friend: oh i've been victimized by this girl I bought her such and such then she such and such:
After if he can't pick it up mail it to him.
I am not a counseller or anything like that it is just that I know that guys like this exist and they always buy you stuff knowing that it will make it harder for you to tell them to f off.
Just tell him nice knowing you "friend " and tell him you can't morally just be like pretentious and it is not him it is you and you prefer of he did not contact you anymore.
He will say what did I do I can't change and act all Molly and heartbroken but stand your ground and say it is not you it is just that I would prefer if we were not friends anymore.
Be assertive. He will find another friend who likes his weirdness . Trust me they always do.
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