Do You Think I Should Go to His Birthday Party? He shows interest in me sometimes, but then ignores me. 10pts?

[Jae]

A month ago I got a random facebook message from a guy I met in college. We exchanged numbers over fb and have been texting on and off ever since. (He even texted me once asking if I wanted to go to dinner with him, but I was too busy unfortunately since I own a small business.) When I see him randomly we’ll hug, and he’ll compliment my clothes and jewelry.

HOWEVER, for the past two weeks he’s been texting me first and when I’d respond he wouldn’t answer me. Then he’d text me many days later apologizing and claiming he was “feeling antisocial/tired/working, etc. But once when I checked his twitter, I saw that he had made plans to chat with a girl online after work. He texted me early the next morning apologizing about how he was SO tired after work, and went to bed right away, which wasn’t true.

He ignored my last text to him for 7 days (when he texted *me* first) BUT THEN, he texted me on Christmas morning at 8:00am apologizing for his late replies, claiming it was because of work/feeling anti-social. He wished me a merry Christmas, and I texted him back hours later and wished him a good one as well. On the 27th he texted me saying that we "had to discuss DJango. We HAVE to." Since both happened to see it on Christmas - separately. I chose to ignore his text for the 1st time ever. The next day he made a "Birthday Event" on Facebook, and invited me. I still haven't responded to it yet but I'm really considering not going. Partly because of what's been going on between us for the past month, but also because I don't have any means of getting there. (We live in different cities and by bus it would take me +2 hours.) What do you think I should do? And would you go to his party??

[Agony]

Too long. Too lazy to read.

[ThatGirl1989]

He kind of sounds like me. I work a lot and I'm tired and sometimes feel antisocial. I'll get a text and not really feel like replying right away and then end up falling asleep or working or get caught up with something and it'll slip my mind for a few days, so I can understand his lack of replies. Perhaps he's gotten busier over the holiday season.

However, because it is such a long ride and such a hassle for you that it doesn't seem worth it. I'd tell him that you can't make it but the next time he comes to your neck of the woods that you'll take him out for a belated birthday dinner or something. But wait to make any assumptions for another week or two and see if he starts replying to you more. He might just have extra stress right now, which usually lifts after the whole holiday mess is over with.

[Samara]

Honestly you don't seem too excited about this party. And I've seen this happen with a friend... where a guy liked a girl and then lied about liking or getting together with someone else to make the girl he liked jealous. i would just say that if you really don't have an interest in him and you have no heart to go, don't! Have fun doing something you like instead of wasting your time on someone you're not interested in

[AbigailHelloKitty]

It doesn't seem like you're into him that much so i don't know maybe you should maybe you shouldn't plus i think you should go and confront him be like only if you like him just be real with him straight up or be like this a friendly way --->"hey, so like no reply from you i see how it is" laugh and smile if he said oh i been busy all that b.s that you know is lies then say "It's cool i get it you don't have time for me" & make him jealous and bring a guy date to take you plus so you can have a good time but, with him!(: