What is wrong with my ex, seriously?!?

[CheekySmile<3]

We broke up nearly a month ago, because she just became too paranoid and said that I had mucked around with her head, when I really didn't, she just became depressed and emotional. She cheated on me 4 times, 3 years ago when we first started seeing each other. However, the main reason we broke up was because we had... One argument, over a movie and because I was flirty with my friend once who I've known for 6 years, and that's how we've always been. There was never anything in it, as we're really good friends. At the movies, I said I was being immature and wanted to do what she wanted to do, however, she never returned the favour and did what I wanted to do, everything was so one sided. She used to get her way, all the time. If she had to pay for things she'd be really annoyed about that. I paid for everything, the whole relationship.. Apart from a few things I forced her to pay for which was just lunch, and when she paid for lunch the 2nd time in 3 years, she called me a Golddigger... But anyway, we broke up, and she has been really horrible to me, telling me she hates me... Because I told her I was moving to London and that I had a new phone. Saying how I was arrogant and everything :/ Then she sent me a message on my twitter page saying "Clubs are for sl**s and wh**es" after I'd written a tweet about going out with my friends. I replied, "I'd fit in, as that's what she called me". She then replied, "I bet you couldn't wait to leave me and go clubbing" - (She was the one that dumped me) She blocked me...? When we were together, she wouldn't let me talk to my friends at all, or go out anywhere with them. If I did, she'd get me back in spite. We're in our 20's.. She's still acting the victim and this is so child like. Then I try to be nice to her and she's blunt and horrible. I just want to move on with my life, why can't she accept that? She obviously doesn't want me but doesn't want anyone else to be with me... Every time she talks to my friends and asks them what I've been up to, they tell her I've been out clubbing or met a girl she goes absolutely mental and fly's off the hook to them, getting really angry. Then when it comes back to me, I'm like, "What's going on about this.. " then she say's "It's all still fresh", then pushes me away saying, "I hate you". I'm trying to move on but why does she keep looking at my Twitter, and sending me messages? All I've done Is treat her like a princess and try to be good to her but all she is, is a spoilt brat.. In her 20's. I can't move on until I know there's some form of peace between us as she's been my best friend for years. Every time I let her know her stuffs been sent off, I get comments like, "Likewise" or "Sorry for being polite"... When she was just plain rude :/ I can't ask her if she's still got feelings for me because I'll just get harassment :/ I don't understand.. Help please!! Thank you!

[Dammy]

you made a mistake being with her for so long, there are faithful girls out there you just have to look for them. Don't date someone that likes you because of your money date someone because of your personality.

[Ven]

Some girls go crazy over a guy, especially if he was their first proper love, but she has taken it way too far and is boarderline mental.

You NEED to let her go, you CAN move on without having to ammend things. However close you were, she has turned psycho and seems obsessed with you! The only kind thing to do would be to leave her alone and get out of her life, so she can get back on track and stop being so messed up over you. And you yourself need to move away from her.

Every time you talk to her, text, phone call, internet, it pushes her further and further over the edge. If you find it hard, try going a small amount of time (say about 2-3 months) with no contact to begin with, this will help her to get her head straight. Then if you REALLY can't stand not talking to her, send her a civil small message, if she is civil back, have a mini convo, then the next time leave it 5-6 months without contact, then the next time try going 7-8 months. You will both find you have moved on with your lives, but are still able to be civil to one another, having had enough time apart to get over eachother.

Definitely do not let her know what you are doing, who you are with,or if you meet any other girls. This will drive her insane! And is as bad as contacting her. Make sure she cannot see your twitter/facebook/myspace, change the privacy settings. Send her a final text saying,

"I think it is for the best that we don't talk anymore, I wish you all the best for the future." And whatever she replies, leave it at that. Do not respond, and if need be, block her.

[Normansgirl]

You have obviously put this girl on a pedestal and treated her like a Princess and do not deserve to be treated like this. She IS paranoid and totally controlling and self-centred. Now see her for what she is and get out of her life completely. Let her know that you are not interested in what she is doing now as you are enjoying life without her. Take no notice of her spiteful messages and tell your friendsknow that she is out of your life and you don't want to hear anything more about her. Have they got nothing better to do than tittle tattle to you like a load of girls? So be brave and make new friends and, hopefully meet someone who deserves such a nice guy, but be sure not to step into the same trap again. A good relationship is equal on both sides. I wish you good luck.