Does your spouse maintain contact with their ex's?

[anon]

If your spouse (In his 30s) had 5 ex's (Some serious girlfriends, some fuck-buddys), whom he also went to highschool with... would you be comfortable with them maintaining contact? (Phone calls, facebook, outings). Even if, he had previously lied to you about their history?
I should specify, his facebook does say married and he hasn't actually gone out with any of them. I believe they are all married too. He has talked about wanting me to meet them and vice versa.

[Amazingsea346]

My question would be "why?". In my opinion there is no reason to maintain friendships with exes, because they are rarely about friendship!

[Liz]

No I would not like it at all. My husband is in contact with his ex wife as they have children together, apart from that they have nothing to do with each other.

[MADLUV]

lied about history .. no trust is broken i can't say I would be in a relationship like that!
Take care!

[John The Skeptic!]

If he is lying about his history with those women he's probably lying about what he's doing with any of them. I mean there is a difference between saying hi on facebook and going on outing with these women especially if they're still single. Why don't you ask to go on some of these outings and see what he says. If he doesn't want you to go then there is something going on. There is no real good reason to maintain a relationship with those women other to have someone to go to for some I need to be understood sex from them. Meaning if you two have a fight and he leaves, he may go to one of them looking for sympathy and maybe some sympathy sex! DO you look at his facebook? See what his relationship status says, that should tell a little bit of what he's putting out there.

[Sarcasticable044]

Our rule is that the spouse has to be involved in any opposite sex friendship. The only one he felt remotely threatened by was one that lives 8 hours away. I've met some of his female friends too, and it doesn't bother me.

[jackie m]

My spouse only keeps in contact with his last ex because he has a daughter with her. I was married a long time and now divorced and I do not even talk to my ex husband or any other ex bf, they are an ex for a reason and if my current partner was in contact with lots of his ex gf I would not be happy and he would probably soon be ex bf

[Joseph Gamble]

There is a very thin line here. My wife of 15 years found out early on that my ex was still contacting me. My ex and I had a very good friendship way before we had a relationship though. However, I can honestly say occasionally during those conversations it went to places that I know would have hurt my wife. So I told her I needed to tone it down a bit....Then I asked (I mean you wouldn't have wanted me talking to ex's when we were together would you?) shortly after that the contact ended. That is your answer right there. If you communicate to him how it makes you feel and he still continues to do it. Then whatever is going on he certainly values it over you. Friendship or cheating. However it is important for him to have freedom but not if it makes his wife feel uncomfortable. It doesn't sound to me like you are stalking him or telling him he can not go. Communication is key and essential in every relationship. I would express my feelings and let him make the choice. Find the happy medium if at all possible. Its okay to be a part of social media where your ex's like to linger....but does he feel the need to contact them multiple times a week. It should be kept to an extreme minimum. Otherwise it jeopardizes commitment he made to you and the foundation of your marriage.

GOOD LUCK

[I Am Blessed]

No. If they are children involved then it is a necessity, but other than that I don't see why he should.

[BabeHart]

Since they are exes, I wouldn't be all that concerned (if he wanted to be with them, he'd be with them) as long as the contact wasn't inappropriate...

Some people are able to maintain civil or even friendly relationships with exes...there's nothing wrong with that...