EMERGENCY HELP SO CONFUSED!?

[Live Love Laugh<3]

We met on Facebook through a mutual friend. Our connection was almost instantaneous. It's indescribable really. We skype all the time at the very beginning so no it's not a hoax or "fake profile" or whatever. Anyway, we started talking in June of 2012, and he made me his girlfriend in September. Things at first were absolutely perfect, he was sending me flowers, sending me gifts, bought me an iPhone 4S,a wii U, anything I want he gets it for me. However...Not every relationship is perfect, and it being an online relationship I know I'm going to get the worst feedback just because it's an online relationship. Honestly, I know some can last and some just can't. This would be my first online relationship so I'm new. We've been together for going on 5 months, and he had given me his facebook account, I was bored and curious to see who he had been talking to and came across several messages to this girl where he lives and he would tell her he loves her but she would screw with his mind all the time so he gave up on her..I don't mind him talking to other girls, go ahead. It's the flirting and the talking-talking that worries me. He also spoke to a girl who used to live by him for a good 3 months up until his birthday. I guess you can say he's never actually cheated but he has flirted and taken the conversations further than they should by giving other girls his number, etc. However, this is my question..Given that he's done all this and he's never directly told me himself about these girls, I had to hear it either through them, or the messages on his facebook and he's done this while he was in a relationship with me, what should I do? Does this all make our relationship at the very beginning a lie? He says he loves me, and he's more than proved it with everything, it's just what he's done at the beginning of our relationship that worries me and makes me wonder if this is worth hurting over...If anyone understands what I'm going through please help, we have been arguing al

[Brittany]

I think that it is perfectly normal to have an online relationship, but it isn't easy at all! Anyways, your question. Me, personally, I would just forget about it and never think about it again, BUT, keep checking back his facebook and see if he is talking to anymore girls. If he does, then you confront him about it. Just don't beat yourself up about it.

[princess]

I was in the same situation before. talk to him tell him you read those conversationa dn you want an explanation. why did he do that if you are together. I dont think there is any problem with that. I am pretty sure everything will be clear. besides that, just because is an online relationship doesnt mean is not real or the same as someone living near you. Just be careful you know, but I hope you enjoy it and everything gets clear with him

[AprilBunny.]

Why would he flirt with other girls if he loves you? It sounds like he's looking for "companionship" (sex) from other girls in his area to fulfill that part of his relationship he doesn't have with you. A little flirting over facebook isn't THAT big of a deal if its really just a "how was your day? " type thing. If he's been saying i love you or youre cute to other females and giving his NUMBER to them, how do you know he doesnt text them even more than messaging them? i suggest you DONT give him an ultimatum. Dont say anything like "well i'm leaving you if you don't stop talking to these girls" because then he will start lying to you and deleting the messages and you would never even know. If he didn't tell you about them in the first place, why would you believe that he stopped talking to them you know? This sounds like a hard situation for you but i'm sure you can pull through. Ask yourself this: do you REALLY see yourself with this person 10 years from now? if you don't or have to think about the answer, youre better off just breaking it off now before you waste years of your life. Good luck to you and i really hope i helped!

[SoulShade7030]

You need to talk to him about this. I'm not ripping on your relationship "just because it's online", but unfortunately, since it is purely online that does create some problems. First of all, have you guys ever met up and gone on dates in real life? I'm going to guess, from what I've read, no. And because you haven't, he probably feels it's okay to talk to and flirt with these other girls online because to him it probably doesn't feel like a real relationship, even though it does to you. He probably does not consider your relationship to be a very serious, committed situation. And just to let you know, money does not buy love. I'm saying that because you said he buys you whatever you want. That's almost a red flag right there. Why hasn't he taken you out on an actual date yet? You've been going out 5 months right? And there's been no physical contact? Even if you live far away from each other, it would make sense if you have seen each other in real life at least once. And you say that he's proved he loves you....how? By buying you things? Saying things? That only goes so far. It's only surface level. I don't know. I would believe it more if, say, you lived in different countries far away and he flew himself to see you.

You need to talk to him seriously about it. Suggest that you meet up in real life BUT MAKE SURE YOU BRING A FRIEND AND MAKE IT IN A PUBLIC, OPEN PLACE IN BROAD DAYLIGHT, LIKE A MALL. It doesn't matter how long you've been dating, that is *standard* for meeting someone online you've never met in real life before. Do not meet up with him alone or in a secluded place. No matter what.

Bottom line is communication. You need to get to the bottom to what your relationship is, exactly. Is it a casual online thing? Or a committed serious relationship? Sit down and talk with him and don't let up until you figure out exactly what your relationship means to each other.