This girl that I have loved for a while?

[Michael]

[Please read everything, rather than just skimming, thanks]

Hi Everyone,

So, there is this girl and I recently discovered that I have loved her for a very long time. Back when we were about 11 years old, in primary school, we were an item (we're 19 now). This lasted for a good 8 months or so, throughout grade 6 and 7 ad she was my first kiss. It sort of ended mutually after we were moving to different high schools and all that, so there was never any falling out or anything (I know we were only 11 haha, if that sounds weird).

It's been about 8 or 9 years now since these times. Roughly 2 years ago, we made contact again, through facebook, I got her number and we were going to meet up for the first time in years, unfortunately, this never happened for some reason. I have since then lost her number and that was that. Since then I have had two other girlfriends, neither of which really went anywhere. I know that she has had one or two other boyfriends in this time as well, so we're on a similar page there. I don't believe her's lasted for a great deal of time either.

So as of recently, she's just really been on my mind a fair bit again, and I just have these feelings where I know I really love her and feel as though she's the only person I can be with. I've been introduced to other girls and so on, but no one interests me. This girl has a perfect personality, a nice family, shares similar interests and is very good looking. I'm just not really sure how I should approach talking to her again or how I can somehow convey my feelings towards her, without it being awkward or making anything uncomfortable as I'm not sure if she has ever had these feelings towards me in the past. My only means of communicating with her are Facebook and all that I remember is the last time we spoke, roughly two years ago, all was well. I just don't want to miss my opportunity with her.

In the meantime I've just been trying extra to be at the top of my fitness level and keeping nice and healthy, so that if we were to meet sometime, I'd be at my best.

Also, would she maybe find it at all weird that we used to be an item over 8 years ago, in Primary School, or is that kind of a cute thing?

All your help and advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks.

[b-b-b]

I think you should contact her on Facebook if you feel this passionate about her and meet up if she wants to and see how it goes. Maybe mention the whole being an item when you were 11 casually, like a joke instead of being serious so she's not freaked out or anything just in case. If/when you meet, if it feels right, tell her how you feel and how you can't stop thinking about her even after all these years. It will make you feel better to let her know, even if she doesn't feel the same.

[annonymous]

HaHa hey, Id 1st like to thank you for answering my question.

Now, I know someone going through an extremely similar case. It can be weird to think how we went from being So close etc to being not able to even say hi without an awkward thought on our minds. If you really want to talk to her, from which I believe you do, start the convo off in a kind friendly manner. This will show her you are a friendly person, and not just another boy who has changed for the bad, if you know what i mean. Try and become really close, as her how her life is, and tell her you still have funny memories of primary school *But not about you two dating!* Also, try not too oush it and be tooo friendly, as getting in the friend zone is impossible to get out off. She may just see you as a friend. To be honest i think a good way to start might be to like one of her photos over on facebook.. and when she comes on from their start with a simple ' Hey ' ..