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. · 05-05-2013, 02:22 AM

I want to get into a relationship with a girl but I can't talk to girls for this reason at all because I am shy. I can talk to them to ask them a question or something but I can't go to a girl and start a conversation. I did it twice but I didn't know what to talk about and it was really awkward. So this is my biggest fear. I run out of subjects and even If I talk about something it won't make me get into a relationship anyways. I am 17 years old in high school..

Fiona · 05-05-2013, 02:28 AM

You sound like such a sweetheart Smile

(I'm 16 and a girl, so not a creeper lol) Well first you should find something you have in common with a girl. You can join a club that she's in, and try to interact with her in a group setting so the pressure won't be all on you. You can also start a FB conversation with her. This allows you to think before what you write, and you don't have to have the awkwardness of actually looking at her. You can talk about what is new at school, or ask her if she would want to hang out some time. You can't really go up to a girl, start talking to her, and expect to be in a relationship with her. I think the best relationships start with friendships.

.....JayJay · 05-05-2013, 02:35 AM

Dude find girls you have things in common with or if you can't then you will have to do some homework on the person. Find out things about the person in order to find topics to talk about with them. Ask if she is in any sports or any clubs. Remember to always ask questions and take notes. If she is in a sport maybe you can ask her if she would want to teach you some things (even if you are better than her). Try to find out what she likes to do for fun. Books she might have interest in, music she listens too. If you ever decide to go on a date take her to the movies. Easy way to spend time with her, watch the movie and afterwards take her out for some pizza and talk about thoughts on the movie. Just remember to always try to talk to her about something. Awkward silences can be a deal breaker for anyone. Just relax and have fun. When you are having fun and being yourself you will never feel left out or awkward.

Oh and don't listen to the girl above me. FB is the worst way of talking to people. You should learn to be able to talk to a girl in person and not by using something like facebook or twitter. Get comfortable with her and show her you are fun and a good guy. The worst thing that can happen is she might ask just to be friends.