I feel like I have a mental problem.?

[Ryan]

Hi.
I know it's stupid ask a question like this on Yahoo Answers. But I really do think I have a mental problem. My mom and I have a rough relationship. We argue almost every day, and about really small things. Sometimes it's extreme, but most of the time it's small. I know that my mom overreacts and is not like typical mothers. She's not strict. She actually gives me a lot of privileges, and support. But when I make one tiny mistake, it's hell. She really thinks ahead to the future, like my college life and so forth. Even my wedding life (I'm 15). She's right, and I think to myself that I should change my life around for the better. But the next day? I forget it. I seem to just not listen, and in the moment I don't care. But after the argument, I feel complete guilt, sadness, and anger. If this keeps up, I think something will happen, and really make me... Regretful. I've even thought about drugs and suicide at some points in my life. I'm not a spoiled guy too, at least in my opinion. But I know that 90% of our arguments is because of me, and me being the problem. Distractions really get to me too. Like video games, social media, and daydreaming.
My dad never really talked to me too much. He's a good dad, but he ignored me too much when I was younger, to the point where I feel a little left out. My mom always talks about how I'm "turning into him" and it's horrible. My sister's always been really nice, yet strict. She's five years older, so she's like another mom to me, in a way. But when the time comes, she always sides with my mom, and tells me I have to change. I've thought about counseling, and more. But the main problem is that I don't listen, and frankly, don't care. No matter how hard I try to change, I end up in my same old self.
A lot of minuscule problems revolve around my life, and that gives me a lot of stress. I've always been a popular guy, but I feel like 1% of my friends actually are my friends. The only close escape I've had is music. Playing music since I was 3, that was my getaway. I'd take long walks at my old school with my favorite song plugged in my ears, but end up punching the brick walls out of anger. Anger issues is a factor too. I feel like I have ADD, and I can't focus on school.
A lot of this is complicated, and this isn't even the half of it. But I wanted someone's thoughts, cause I can't seem to find my own. Please, no rude answers. I've had plenty of those.
Thanks,
Ryan

[Frank]

i think that u should be left to be a kid for a couple more years, not be having added pressure on you. i raised my son and he actually turned out ok, even though, he had a few bumps in the road. i found out it was ok not to hassle him. he graduated from high school and has been working regular, what can i say. i tried to get him to go into the military, so as he could get education and benfits but he does not want that.

[Da]

I've had similar problems in my life. Suicide is not the answer. But if you don't change something you can get perm anxiety. Have you tried smoking pot? It's like an anti depressant and will help you deal with those issues and make you want to become a better person, without all the risks and insane side effects. It will also he with your ADD. I have ADD as well and used to fail out of school i literally had an F in every class. Mostly cause my family would fight and scream extreemly everynight. Now since i started smoking weed i am an A+ student that makes 4 grand a month running my own business. NEVER use alcohol to make things better cause it only makes people worse. NEVER do any other drugs like heroin and cocain. Those can ruin your life, as well as anti depressants and prescription medication. Your not going to live your whole life this way eventually you will be on your own without having to deal with things like that. Just focus on the positives in life. Good luck

[Wee Jaime]

Ryan,
I understand you perfectly when you say that this is only half of it. It amazed me reading your post since so much of what you wrote is strikingly similar to my own life. My dad has never been around and is literally nonexistent in my life. I'm 18 by the way. My sister, 4 years older, strict and very close to my mom. And my mom, a spitting image of yours. Doesn't care about what I do at night or who my friends are, but has a tendency to explode on the tiniest disagreement, leaving me feeling robbed of my energy and happiness. II myself have been seeing a psychologist for a while, and i feel like I can pass some things along in your direction. First things first, what really stuck out about your post was how obviously bad you felt about yourself. In your mind, everything is your fault and your mother's criticisms of you are all justified. YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS! Don't necessarily ignore her completely, (although I personally have done this with my mother) but for your sake, try not to feel so bad about yourself. Your mother is most likely overburdened by various stresses. Her failed marriage, possibly financial or work-related issues, and because she feels that her life is in disarray, she feels the need the meticulously organize and prefect yours. She sees you as an extension of herself. This being said, if you continue to pay strict attention to her criticisms, you will be overpowered by her, and your life will no longer be your own. You must emancipate yourself. Don't abandon her (at least not yet), but at the very least recognize when her criticisms are irrational. Let me guess, you didn't clean something, or your grades weren't good enough or whatever. In response to these slight under-performances on your part, she explodes as if it were the most important thing imaginable. These criticisms of hers, despite being the result of possible mistakes on your part, are in no way justified and do not help the situation. Again I stress, the most important thing you can do is recognize when her criticisms seem completely out of bounds and out of control, and respond accordingly. Do not provoke her. Appease her. Play along. And definitely, definitely, see a psychologist. Your current psych problems are not presently extremely serious, but in my experience, if you ignore them the issue will be deeply exacerbated in the coming future. By the way, I don't know what your mom is like, but the issue would be much better if you could get her to accompany you to see a psychologist. Just tell her that it will be a good opportunity to come to terms with some of the stresses that she is obviously overpowered by. You two should see one together, as well as individually.