Does a relationship serve any purpose but procreation?

[Love-Respect-Peace]

Ever since I was a little tyke, my mind was filled with this image of true love, blah, blah, blah... This was of course due to indoctrination via the mass media, but when I opened my eyes, and looked at love and the world to what it really was, I saw that it was a state of extreme weakness. A state where you open up yourself to someone who is unworthy, someone who is imperfect. I'm by no means a perfectionist... just a christian.

I know that there are in some rare cases some genuinely good people, but, the norm is quite the opposite. I use to be quite introverted, but this year God gave me a change. I gladly took it. I capitalized on whatever social skills he gave, me and took it upon myself to get to know (for research purposes on my part) as many members of the opposite sex as possible. First, I had to get over this disdain I have for physical interaction with anyone, then I had to learn how feign certain emotional reactions that are suitable in a certain situation. With that aside, I concluded that there is no purpose beside procreation. I don't know if God has already fulfilled everything I need, and that having a relationship with an imperfect creature is unsatisfactory to me, but what I do know is that I tried. I gave it a good try. I interacted with the most beautiful girls, to those who were average, to those who were below average, to those whose faces were vomit inducing. One thing I learned is that beauty means nadda. Some of the girls I felt the deepest connection to were in fact not lookers. This startled me a bit, I must add. I met others who were decent, but no one I could fully 'connect' to. No one who could give me anything near what God gave to me.

With regards to anything sexual. After getting over my disdain for physical contact with anyone else, I still didn't really want anything sexual. In my younger days, I tried viewing some graphic videos, and must admit that it got thrilling, but then it died down. I wasn't thrilled because of the nudity, nope. I got thrilled because I was going through somewhat of a sadistic faze. With that aside, suffice to say that I see no purpose in a relationship. I would like to know what you see in one. It might enlighten me a bit... I dunno.

Have a good day.
@ Move on, Jesus was celibate. Jesus taught me a lot. He taught me to love those who hate me, to be tolerant of those who're exceedingly violent and brutal, and to just live one day at a time without thinking for the future. With regard to women, well, he's letting me figure that one out on my own. I still ask him for help on occasions, and he does get me out of certain situations.
@ Marcu, I do love. Most of the time, at least. God has taught me to love. I'm not referring to the literal emotion - a chemical reaction in the brain means nadda to me. I'm speaking about it from a completely physical perspective. He's taught me to be completely tolerant of those, who otherwise, I would've wished death upon. He's taught me to be good, and do good, to those who do not deserve it. He's brought me freedom, and peace. No longer is my mind saturated with that dreaded chemical reaction called hate. I'm also no longer plagued with anxiety or anything else. With regard to the literal love - chemical reaction, I do feel it most of the time. Is there really a difference between love and bliss? Having experienced the world, I no longer feel love on a basis as many men do. It's not an individual emotion directed at an object, for me. It's more general. So, falling in love really isn't my thing.
@ smartAZ, a bit of both. I give my view, and I expect your view... Not short sentences.
The thing about love is that it usually doesn't last. After the first four years or so of being with someone, you get really sick and tired of them. Don't tell me I'm lying. It's observable fact. Love is blind and stupid. It weakens you into an emotionally driven child, and once that emotion is gone, you're left vulnerable and weak.
@ Marcu, the meaning of life is subjective. To me the meaning is to find God. To you, it's something earthly and material.
To OTHER answerers, I just remembered. I'm stuck in a paradox, although I don't want a physical relationship, and don't want physical sex, my person is attracted phsically (fspecifically, facially) to members of the opposite sex. To me, a beautiful girls' face is art... nothing more. I don't want a relationship with one, but I need to find a way (without becoming a friend) to observe them. I don't want any gushy emotional stuff involved. I'd say it brings me some aesthetic pleasure (better than sadism, hey?).
@ adagio, thank you. I read a bit of what your wrote, and a light went up in my head. Perhaps this is what I was missing? Someone to become spiritually one flesh with. The thing is, I don't want to go on all these dates getting to know people I have zero interest in, plus I'm only serious about intra-religious dating. Thanks anyway.

[Move on]

I would have thought you would have turned to Jesus for the answer. After all, he was quite the ladies man. A big flirt and definitely took pleasure in the foreplay's of desire.



Ah, no, Jesus was not celibate. Maybe you should look further into the man he was and not take for granted what is lied to you. Christianity certainly has a purpose to lie. Find it within you to know the truth. Not from those who desire to control you. You will find he has so much more teach, even the truth of the pleasures of the flesh.

[marcuBelmo]

relationships give you experience. Experience with emotions & bonding, and most of all love. TO gain experience is the meaning of life, so I'd say relationships serve an important purpose.

[The Architect]

Besides the sharing of love, a healthy relationship challenges you to be a better person. To want better for yourself.

[SmartAZ]

Are you asking us or telling us?

[adagio58]

Aside from a big thrill, the relationship of a man and woman is for mutual support emotionally, physically and spiritually. Don't forget, part of the marriage vows is about "in sickness and in health" so it's including more than physical good looks, true?

The world is based on vibrations. We are all vibrating at a certain frequency and when you find a compatible companion they blend in with your vibratory rate and complement (complete) you, so you become ONE in a spiritual sense not only in a physical sense.

Good looks are based on superficial appearances and besides, beauty is only skin deep. Some women spend inordinate amounts of time on improving their attractiveness but to the point of being an obsession instead of an add-on.

If you are wise you'll find someone that you can share your interests with, have good discussions on different ideas, share your hopes and dreams; otherwise you'll encounter someone who is a good time tonight and forgotten about tomorrow. I'm sure you want more than that! Even if they do not measure up to your standards, perhaps you can help them to understand by teaching them about the things that are important to you.

From a spiritual standpoint, God in His wisdom created man and woman with a purpose in mind, not only is it for procreation but that they might be a helpmate to each other throughout life. Nature is guided by wisdom towards its expression in wholeness. We should learn to live more naturally and with moderation that helps us to grow as spiritual beings. And we don't need lipstick for that, lol.

Just my two cents. ;- )

[?]

You seem to have no sexual desire. Try to look inside yourself why this is this way. Find out what the core of it is and if you really want to stay this way. Touching, hugging, kissing, and more intimate intercourses are meant to bind people to each other and let them feel joy and a feeling of being "one" it´s a tool to show somone else how much you love him/her. I would suggest to you to find the key how to activate this missing particle in your self because sex is more than procreation if used right.
The wish of you to want to have someone whos face you can look at, as it is art for you is a part of sexuality/love. "Sex" is not only in the region down there. Love, physical/emotional/spiritual, is something we all have to learn and everyone of us has his weeknesses and strengths. But we all can accomplish to grow. Meditation, fasting and prayer can change many things. I wish you a good luck.

[All hat]

No, you were right as a little kid. It's adults who have their heads up their aasses. True love exists - but you have to 1) learn to value it, 2) realize you now have to go out and find it, it doesn't just shower on you like when you were a little kid, and 3) drop all cynicism about it and take it seriously and take care of it.

You do that, it is heaven on earth. Not, then life is kinda bleak really -

[Shih Tzu]

When I was young, I got married and had two wonderful kids. Later on, my husband and I grew apart and divorced. Since then I have enjoyed a wonderful relationship with another, without procreation. This relationship is based on friendship, companionship, and love. I prefer this relationship to the first one. I never get tired of being with this person. I think part of your problem may be that you are anti-social. I think you have to enjoy people and being around them to recognize the benefit of a relationship.

[Generalist]

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It's primal even beyond procreation.
The same species is split into two main groups, with stragglers.

DNA wants unity.