I need a way to get my ex boyfriend back?

[Amie]

Alright so my ex boyfriend broke up with me almost a month ago and I was just destroyed when this happened. Worst part is, I still dont know why.. He never gave me a straight answer.. We had a few fights but who doesnt? and when we had them, they were bad but we seemed to get though them. When we werent fighting, we were really happy together. I really miss him, his amazing smile, his baby blue eyes, his hugs and kisses, everything about him.<3 From the day we broke up, for like a week after, he kept messaging me on Facebook saying "I miss you" I still love you" I want to get back together soon". I never really messaged him back because I was still really hurt and upset. I really wanted to tho.. but now he wont even talk to me... He wont message me when he sees Im on Facebook or when I message him, he never messages me back. He is very popular especially with the ladies.. Im really afraid that one of them will get him first before I have a chance to try to win him back. Most of them are little sluts... Every girl that knows him who I have talked to told me that they liked him and were trying to get with him. A few days before he broke up with me, I hung out with one of my cousin and right after, he added her to Facebook and started talking to her. Now she wont talk to me either.. I dont understand this.. Could someone please help me figure out whats happened and also how I could get my cousin and my ex boyfriend to talk to me and how to get my ex boyfriend back? By the way, Im 14, my ex is 13, and my cousin is 13. Thanks for your help! xo

[Francisca]

The only way to at least have a chance at getting an ex back is to re-gain your dignity. This means you must dry those tears, wash your face, stand up tall and proud and without crying but with a re-newed confidence tell him you love him but do not want him if he does not want you, and then you wish him well and let him go. Now, this will be the most difficult thing you ever had to do, but you must do it for any possible chance of winning him back, and if he doesn't come back doing this will make it easier for you to let go because you will be left with your dignity and pride in place. Most times when someone leaves a relationship it is due to many reasons, but the bottom line is that what they used to see in the other person is not there any more. In other words, what once attracted him to you has faded. You must re-gain that attraction.

Once you let him go and do not call him or ask about him in time he will begin to change his mind about you. He will begin to see you with respect and admiration for your strength. This is a slow process and at times you will feel he is not paying attention to how strong you are, but trust me, he will pay attention. He needs to come to see you as a prize to cherish and win, not as a clingy, crying desperate person. Don't cry, it is not over until it is over. Best of luck to you!