I fantasize about subservient women, is that wrong?

[Golgotha]

I believe in gender equality in the workforce and elsewhere, but when it comes to a sexual relationship the idea of taking charge excites me. I have not pursued this desire very well because of my great respect for women and my acute shame for thinking this is hot. But i do prefer certain ethnic groups like Asians for this reason, even though that's a stereotype (that' s been proven dead wrong right before my eyes!). In our modern world this idea has negative connotations because it appears unjust to women, as with Muslim women for example.

But I wonder how many liberated women really WANT to behave this way with men. How many feel they have to keep this a secret for fear of being discriminated against in other areas like work or social arenas? How many worry about "losing power" just by giving up some? Is it wrong or old fashioned to desire women in this way? Why or Why not?
No idea how this turned into a "white girls like black guys" thing since I never mentioned it. Whatever!

@yacoffee~dominating a partner has very little to do with being selfish to me. Perhaps I wasn't clear. I also am not talking about BDSM, just taking the lead....being the "black man" as it were.

[Chaos Theatre V2]

For very, VERY obvious and logical reasons people fear losing control. That's pretty much the sociopolitical side of it.

Surely if you're into that sexually though, then why not pursue it? Men aren't recognised by their sexuality in the same way women are, which is why women are less likely to admit these kind of desires. Your sexuality DOESN'T define you, and it won't negate your respect for women, no matter what MRAs preach to you.

[Tracy C]

Believe this...aub women actually hold all the power in the sexual relationship because they can say stop. The dom is only allowe to do what is ALLOWED. The dom basically has spoke. Or unspoken permission to have his way with the sub until they are TOLD to stop. As for your desires do what you like there are lots and i mean LOTS of men and women that choose a dom or sub lifestyle and many varrying levels of each. Good luck.

[yacoffee]

If all you care about is YOURSELF and YOUR needs - I would hate to be your partner. You would do stuff and play with me like a toy - likely hurt me in the process and not even care - and I would get no pleasure at all - I would be left frustrated and feeling used. I remember looking at Japanese porn - women kept saying "itai, itai" which means "it hurts". If that is what you want to do - I do think it is wrong.

If you can get a women who enjoys this type of treatment, that would be good - but wham-bam-thank you-ma'am works for no woman - Asian or otherwise - it is just plain selfish.

If you can build up trust with a women who wants to be dominated that would be ok - but if she gives you the signal - you must stop.

[zFirst Name W]

You can have any kind of Consensual safe sex as you want.

There is no right/wrong way to have consensual safe sex.

Bondage and Slave sexual relationship are very popular among men and women. They are also very fulfilling.

Don't let society dictate your sex life. IF you and your partner enjoy it, then have fun.

[Mark]

I dunno, but I have a white gf and the reason why white women prefer black men over white men is because they find us damned irresistable, charming, social, smart, handsome, romantic, and so on. White men are naturally more feminine or ''paedomorphic'' too (paedomorphic, meaning their physical characteristics are rather infantile) which puts many women off them, including their own. This is why white men also have the smallest penises in the world. There's also the fact that white men tend to be much more anti-social and misogynist than us - given how strong feminism has become in the US and UK, you can take a wild guess as to how badly the girls were treated down there. That's if they're not already made to feel guilty for being a woman.

Frankly, white women deserve better. They know we can treat them better, and make them feel special once more - something which their own incompetent men are literally unable to do.

[J]

FYI, ><

This topic is probably pretty controversial, but I thought I'd write about something that bugs a lot of my male friends. Don't pretend that it's not an issue. There are tons of people out there questions why there are so many white girls who prefer black guys. No, I'm not being racist. I'm not generalizing. I'm just telling what MY PERSONAL OPINIONS are. That's why they call this an editorial. I absolutely love hate mail so feel free to send it my way.

Anyways let's start with reason #5 of why I think white girls like black guys.

5) Social Prowess

black men are more socially in-tuned, and thus they have more social prowess than white guys. What I mean by social prowess is that they know what to do in social situations and they know how to network and meet new people well. I think the major reason for this is that I do live in the United States, in an area with a dominant white majority. black guys own the popularity contest, and sometimes this is something that is attractive to girls. As much as I hate to admit it, my gender sometimes has the tendency to get a little shallow. So if a black guy makes you look better than an white guy, then maybe you might want to choose the black guy.

4) Balls

I've met some white guys with balls. But for every white guy with balls, there are three or four black guys with just as much or even more balls. So I'm definitely not saying that white guys never have confidence. This isn't true, but I have to admit that I've found that there are more black guys out there that are more confident.

3) Unique

Sometimes a girl just wants something different. It's quite possible that the girl might be at a stage where she wants something unique and maybe network with some people that are different. I've dated a lot of white guys before my first black guy and this was definitely true for me. It felt refreshing to hang out with a few girls and guys of different races.


2) They pull the trigger

black guys are just more assertive. Sometimes girls just don't want to wait. I've seen that white guys tend to drag out things a lot longer. They want to really extend the courting process. Sometimes girls just want a boyfriend and they want it NOW! black guys are really good at realizing this and acting on it.

1) Western concept of beauty

Living in the United States has probably clouded my judgment a little bit. When you see athletes and stars in the press or media they are always toned, large, tall – all attributes that white guys tend not to have. I think it might have to do with just the way us white American girls were brought up. Our concept of beauty makes us think that black guys just have that beauty that guys of our race don't have.

[Hyderabad C]

Not wrong at all - pretty typical. Thanks for being honest.

Some types of posters just pretend that this is not their real preference. Instead the praise the subservient qualities and call them "natural, feminine, moral, following the bible" while dissing the rest of us as "manly feminists"