Im not allowed to date?

[Alisha]

So the thing is im 13 years old and not allowed to date. My mom said I can't date until age 17 and I really think its unfair. Im almost a grown woman at that age so whats the point? I can understand 14 but 17 is not fair. Im not ugly and get asked out by my crushes sometime but have to turn them down because of it. And I get teased ALOT about it. And people think i'm a lesbian because i'm a bit of a tomboy and don't date anyone. I just hate this I mean she acts like I can't even have guy friends if a guy friend asks me to hang out outside of school she gets all weird because she wants me to hang out with more girls. She has literally smothered me in over protectiveness I have absolute no friends outside of school. I feel so left out. If we have to choose partners its so embarrassing because no one wants to choose me.And she wont buy me a phone or let me have a facebook or twitter. Basically how can I get her to allow me to date and not be so protective? I told her how I felt but she didn't even care. I know you're saying she doing this out of love and wants the best for me but really its just hurting me inside to feel so left out.
People I just wanted to say I don't intend on "sexual" things. I know all about peer pressure and everything. Know guy at that school is even mature enough for any of that, Most are to shy to even kiss. And I don't care much about Twitter,Facebook just that she wouldn't let me have one if I really really wanted to. Oh and my mom is very strict if she found out I would get a...woopen not grounded nothing taken away woopen. (below the belt of course). Plus I found out my older sister dated behind her back in middle school.

[gess]

be sly, just push it a little then a bit more then more then more jut go out with people behind her back, i know that sounds bad but hey, you have to push her just a bit

[Ving]

Hey you only could be 13 once if you wanna do it at a certain age do it before you look back and said FK my childhood is BS!!!I agree with gess...Becareful my young pupil

[Bobbin]

Some parents don't accept the practical limit of their power and authority. Teens who aren't "allowed" to date until 17 or 18 usually do it anyway, they just don't let mom know, and consequently do it without the benefit of her guidance. In your case, 15 or 16 would be a more appropriate age. However, your life isn't over at 17. Your brain doesn't fully nature until your early 20s, plenty of time to start dating the wrong guys and having your heart broken a few times. Meanwhile, there really is safety in numbers.

[Rachelle Mirville]

I know exactly how you feel. My dad is the same way. I'm currently 16 going on 17 in July. First off ( I know your going to hate me for this, but oh well you'll get over it.) She is naturally doing it out of love, guys at that age are immature and still going puberty. So, of course she wouldn't let you date anyone yet, they're not even fit to face to emotional problems that come with dating. Besides having a Facebook or Twitter isn't all that. I deleted mines like 9 months ago, and i'm still living my life. If you don't have friends outside of school then try to convince your mom to join a club or sport after school so you can make friends in your own age group. Family is also consider friends so you can always talk to them!.... Oh yeah the phone part... I just recently gotten my first real phone on my 16th birthday. Of course I was jealous because everyone had a phone, but i waited til I was capable of handling my own materials before getting one. Anyways, by the time you get your phone it be the updated versions!

[SAI]

in my judgement i think it is safe to date as an adult as a child u are pressured to do a lot of stuff by guys. its best to live out your childhood and not carry the burdens of a relashionship at such a young age you should be focuing on shool, other things then boys......and if u get teased then those people are ignorant , what i always say missery loves company. your mother wants you to not be pregnant at a young ageenjoy life as a child and not take a risk at being a parent. and or other reasons, for me i think u should wait at at least 19 but thats just my opinion. i was called an idiot for giving out my honest opinion here. -_-
well good luck ^__^ i hope i helped!

[NOM]

no ok all of y'all are wrong I mean Wat f Ur mom finds out? n like she's angry if u were my daughter I would watch u close I'm 16
n I have a fiance but I didn't date tell 15 so least date at 15. she loves u that is how my mom is. u have to understand she just don't want u having sex or w.e

[Silence]

Do whatever you like but just so you know guys around such an age usually want one thing and that would be to get in your pants. Your parents are just being parents. Anyway you have the rest of your life to date and heck, when does dating mean you are an adult? Being an adult means being able to work, provide things for yourself, be responsible,respect others, etc.
I'd personally say enjoy your childhood for it will be gone in a flash, as for dating though, dating people tends to last for a long while.You can date say at any age,be it young or old, but your childhood, it only lasts a bit more before it's a mere memory in which many crave to witness once more later on.

I guess it is true with what is said how we crave what we can't have,yet once we have it it tends to not look so spectacular anymore.

[Shadow 114]

Probably the best way you could make her understand your problem would be to tell her you fancy a Girl at school even though you may not this could then bring her into this Century in other words by shock tactics, may seem unfair but if she thinks your unable & keep getting asked out by lads then if you replace this with other Bi Girls at school for instance she is sure to be more worried than she is about going out with a few lads even make sure that as she don't allow you sexual freedom & I do not mean jump into any kind of Sexual behaviour it will help her realise that at some time in the near future this could push you into another area which will be more shocking than allowing you to met lads but ensure & please do only go out Girls when you go out with any lads then this if you put it to her that as she will not allow you to even talk about things with you & explain properly about what your Mother & no doubt your Father would like to keep you under their stronger guidance in today's World then this should do the trick to point out to them of the lack of understanding your awkward position which you would if you get the chance to tell them just what sort of stories are going around at school because of the way they are treating you.

Should then realise they have to meet a happy position with which they have not had to do before now & you must then when everything is finally brought out in the open with them, you have to give or allow them some form of restriction to ensure your knowledgeable enough to understand that you don't intend to even get into the sexual side or even allow any boy to be able to take advantage of you, without the support of real girls & friends which you have & need to make them understand that you want to keep yourself for you & your family in a healthy none sexual capacity until you meet your later years or even when you get married so this places you in a reasonable position to allow them some control on who & where you go in other words your with a group of girls along with lads giving you all the backup so as anyone cannot force themselves onto you Which I am sure is their biggest worry. Best Wishes.