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How should I handle this facebook problem?
05-08-2013, 02:44 PM
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How should I handle this facebook problem?
How to handle this situation?
My sister constantly posts stuff on facebook. She posts pictures of her and her family and puts religious articles on every day, sometimes up to 8 times per day if not more. Since she is on there every day, I assumed she was seeing my posts and comments. I would respond to her pics and say "those are cute" etc and make comments on her posts. She never said anything back to me. I called her on it. I was on the rude side and then I apologized for getting rude and saying some rude things. I have been going through the worst time in my life, went through a crippling surgery and asked for prayers from friends and family. Everybody responded except her. Most of my friends and family work full-time jobs and have families and even go to school, but at least they saw my posts asking for prayer and support. I even got support from relatives that I haven't saw or heard from in years. From my sis nothing at all.

Come to find out, she said she only posts there and never has time to read what others say. She says she gets a lot of flack for it, but that's the way it is. She also said she spends as little time as FB as she can. But she is on there all of the time. My other sister and I have noticed this and she doesn't respond to her posts also or pics, etc. I got off of Facebook because I realized I benefit more from having real relationships with people than just having online friends who may or may not see my posts. I have since learned that if I want real friends, I will have to put myself out there because support isn't coming from Facebook.

I am going to apologize to her in person this week for what I said, but should I mention to her that I think it is wrong for her to expect others to make comments on her stuff and she never reads other's stuff, and it is one-way with her. Also, what about her saying she spends little time on FB when she is on there daily alot? I think I probably shouldn't even mention Facebook at all since I'm no longer on there and just let her do whatever she wants. After all, it is her life. If she is okay with it, then who cares?

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05-08-2013, 02:56 PM
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Don't bring up facebook. It doesn't matter if she commented or not on your pics/posts. It was her decision. She lied to you about the amount of time on facebook, so be it. You are no longer on there so let her be. If it comes up in general conversation, keep the conversation general and not specific and then drop it.

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05-08-2013, 03:10 PM
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Facebook is a social network, so while I do agree she was wrong not to respond to your comments I don't think you should've called her out on it. Your best chance, instead of severing your bond with words, is using said words to strengthen your bond. By severing your bond, you won't accomplish anything but insurance that she'll probably not speak with you over facebook. While strengthening it increases those chances by 30%. In your case apologizing is the beneficial thing to do. If she starts yelling or calling you out on it, keep calm and continue to apologize even so. That's the easiest way to solving this problem.
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