My ex started wanting to talk! Help!!?

[Kayla]

Okay so the story is...I was engaged to a guy for two years but we went our own ways back in 2010. He had been talking to other girls and neither of us were happy anymore. So now, I'm engaged to be married to my wonderful fiancé. Two days ago, out of the blue, I got a notification on facebook. It was a friend request from my ex! I didn't accept it. I messaged him on facebook and asked why he sent me a request. He replied, "I figured we could talk about the past present and future." Long story short...he apologized about everything. We messaged for a whole day. I don't know what to do. He seems so different now. Do I need to just let it go or what?? I love the man I'm with now BUT my ex was my first love.

[Summa Rudis]

"I messaged him on facebook and asked why he sent me a request."

HUGE mistake. Absolutely HUGE mistake.

Do whatever it takes to tell him that you made a HUGE mistake responding to his whatever and tell him to leave you alone.

[Allison]

I know from experiance, that exes love to ruin their exes new relationships and then when they succeed they walk away again. I'm sure he is just doing this because he doesn't want to see you in a happy and committed relationship with someone else first. But you have to really question how much you love your current fiance. You are engaged to him, say you love him yet you have to question your feelings for another. The question needs to be asked, if you can think about being with someone else, ex or not, then you might not be ready for marriage. .

[buffybot67]

Your asking for trouble. From experience I know that sometimes we harbor fantasy's about what might have been but 99% of the time that is exactly what it is a fantasy. If you love your fiance then message the ex back and tell him that although you have fond memories you have moved on, are in love and getting married and that is where your present and future lie. Wish him luck in life and then stop messaging him. I know its tempting but I think you are really putting your relationship with your fiance in jeopardy for something that probably will end badly. Good Luck!