Is it just me or Does my Mom need a wake up call? (moms this a good question for you)?

[Nina]

Ok, I'm 13, 8th grade, I'm gonna be 14 in about 5 months or so. My Mom wont let me have a Facebook, Twitter (ETC).. Doesn't let me hangout with my friends at the mall, movies.. ETC, unless she's there *ok, that's not fun* I'd understand if she didn't let me do those things if I had bad grades and lied, and that kind of stuff, but i don't, i tell my mom everything, i get really good grades and never do anything i would get in trouble for. Bottom line is SHE ISN'T LETTING ME BE A TEENAGER! This cant be normal, friends of mine that i grew up with have parents that are protective too, and theyre allowed to do everything! Let me know if this is weird and what i should do.
P.S. i asked for a facebook this morning and she FLIPPED!
i mean its my last year of middle school!! i wanna stay in touch!

Thanks -nina

[~Dancing Queen~]

tell her you want to stay in touch with friends and if your friends have a facebook etc. maybe just maybe there parents could talk to your mom just tell her why you want one you get good grades and you dont get in trouble and maybe she'll let you if you wear her down a little

[allicia w]

You need to understand that this life is VERY short. You can easily use social networks for hours and hours at a time. Later in life you will realize they were waste of time and you could have been becoming something great. I encourage you to read "Do Hard Things" by the Harris brothers. They are teen guys that have lots better ideas on how you should spend these IMPORTANT years of your life! Have fun!

[salmon]

well.don't tell her everything make a facebook and dont tell her just walk out the house stop acting like a lil kid cause thats how youll be treated trust me my mums like that but worse but one day i just lost it and now sh is normal

[?]

talk to her why she won't let you do this

[?]

She just cares about you.. you should be lucky that she cares. Would you rather have her abusing you and never caring about you? I think she's being a great mom. She cooks for you, cleans your clothes, provides you a house, give her a little credit. Think of how hurt she would be if you got killed or kidnapped... Okay, sorry to sound so mean, .. I just had to get that out of my system and, anyways.. to answer your question;

If you absolutely HAVE to have these things, than try to talk to her about it. Set up a curfew together, like 8:30. Here are some rules to tell her that you'll follow..

Call home if plans change.
Call home if you need a ride.
Be with who you say your gonna be with.
Go where you say your gonna go.
Only go out on weekends.
Any home work and chores are done first.
Carry around some money for emergencies.
No one-on-one dates yet.
No drugs, alcohol, etc..

Just tell her that you'll follow all those rules. That will show her that your responsible and know what to do. If that doesn't work, than you'll just have to follow her rules.

As for the online things... That's really up to her. Does she let you have an email account? You can always contact your friends from there, because I know you have to have an email account to go on Myspace, Facebook, Twitter.. etc. I personally think emailing is a lot easier than going on those websites.. And if all else fails, at least you got a Y!A account,

Good Luck!

[Stefan]

As you stated in your question, your mom is protecting you but i also understand your needs as a teenager and that you want to be with your friends and that you want to participate on facebook etc.

Well, facebook has not the best reputation as you know. Its sure a nice place to meet for you young people but also has been miss used. If there is a chance for you to get a facebook then its only through your Mom. Just sit down with your mom and talk to her, don't fight, don't roll your eyes.... listen to her makes her listen to you. Ones she has the feeling that you understand what her concerns are makes it easier on her to trust you that you are responsible enough to protect yourself.
Explain to her what facebook is and maybe you can even offer her to be able to log on onto your facebook. All she wants is to protect you.
Protection is good and important but over protection is not good and only shows that your Mom maybe overly concerned. Talk to other parents, the ones you think that are cool. Maybe you can have those parents talk to your Mom as well.
I'm sure you all together will find a very good solution for all of you, good luck